Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:26pm

That wasn't me.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:27pm

<<Under that warpaint is a girl with olive skin.

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:30pm
With pleats.... ewwww. Whoever invented the pants that give you a gut even when you don't have one should be drawn and quartered.. lol.
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:34pm

You know, there is a big difference between being pale and being washed out looking.

I keep my fair skin VERY pale all year round with sunblock. I love that I have fair skin, strawberry blonde hair and freckles.

In the summer I usually have a nice, healthy glow, but there are times in the winter when I look utterly washed out and sick. Throwing on a little blush doesnt mean Im trying to change my skin or look lke something Im not.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:37pm
Whether a look is "in" is totally unconnected to whether it makes a person look attractive though.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:39pm
Yes, I would allow it.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:40pm

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Some girls show no interest at all, and they're perfectly fine. Do you think girls like that need these lessons?

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I think 12yo is much too young for makeup of any kind. Of course it's sexual; why else would adult women wear it? And of course it seems grown up and exciting, but it will seem just as grown up and exciting at 16yo.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:45pm
True, but some people don't happen to think any kind of makeup makes a person look attractive, whether or not it's "in".
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:48pm

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Only if you're in the habit of inspecting your face and comparing it to some external standard. You have to be involved in these distinctions in the first place, and then you have to be willing to care enough about them to actually do something. Most men aren't like that, and I think they have the right idea.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:50pm
Amen. Preach it, sister.

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