Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:05pm
Social class, not economic, just FTR.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:08pm
As you are very well aware I am sure, social class in the US and Europe are quite different. In any case, I didn't specify. I think it is rude to imply that any 12yo that wears makeup is low class. Or cheap cheap cheap. Or however else you want to phrase it.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:09pm
I couldn't agree more, but unsurprisingly, some of the posters here totally disagree.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:10pm
You do realize that what makes someone more or less attractive when it comes to makeup and such is completely culturally constructed? Something that is understated and tasteful in on e culture may look garish and artificial in another.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:10pm
The divide has to do with various things, like parental control and involvement and social class. Again, not money, just social class.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:11pm
If I'm sick or tired, I usually feel entitled to a reprieve from worrying too much about how I look. If I'm well, I usually look it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:11pm
Nope, sure can't guess.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:12pm

But those are totally separate things.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:12pm
I don't have much luck with eyeliner, either, because my hands shake. Sometimes I use a darker eyeshadow just above the lashes, though, and it gives the appearance of smudged eyeliner. Most days I go without because I wear glasses and it doesn't make much difference, lol.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:12pm
I agree, looking one's best can be a tremendous boost. But I think we make a mistake when we decide looking one's best has a lot to do with makeup.

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