Advice: The big "talk"

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:13pm
The truth of that statement depends entirely on one's standards of beauty.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:15pm
How about age?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:16pm
I don't think that wearing makeup to school at 12 has a large impact on a girl's ability to "grow into a confident young women who feels appropriately put together." I think that 12 is about the age when most girls start expressing an interest in wearing makeup and in the opposite sex. It goes along with their developing bodies. It seems natural to allow makeup at that point instead of some artificial point in the future.


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:17pm
I don't think that has a lot to do with make-up. Most people think I'm in my early 20s, with or without. My mom easily passes for early to mid 40s, and she's 57. (She doesn't wear any face makeup, only gloss and mascara)
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:19pm

Thank you!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:20pm
Are they really separate? If you believed nobody cared what you looked like, that your appearance made no difference at all to anybody, how involved with makeup and appearance would you really be?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:21pm
That is not pale skin, it is clown paint.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:22pm
It has a lot to do with sun exposure and genes. My mom looks amazing at 53. She wears mascara, but I don't think makeup would make her look better unless she was a professional makeup artist.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:23pm
LOL, me neither, we are both saved from the pain of Manolos by our inherent stinginess ;). Funniest part is that I liked the fuchsia ones with the little pom-poms the best.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:24pm
Oh yes I see a lot of those too. Along with the short, kind of tufted hair, white turtlenecks and embroidered sweater vests. Its a fashion statement all its own!

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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