Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:25pm
Okay, I'll bite:

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:25pm
I'm not a bit interested in looking a different age.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:26pm
I call that the "teacher" look. Not to insult teachers, but most of the teachers that are around my mom's age (including my mom) wear those types of sweaters. They usually have embroidered apples.


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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:26pm
Good point, too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:27pm
Same reason why I usually do not wear make-up. I figure people had better get used to me in all my scary glory, lol.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:28pm

Lol, that reminds me-during our seasonal business this summer one of the *kids* who works for me (he was 22 or so) was looking through my cds for some music to play. He was FLABBERGASTED that I had a Black Flag cd, that someone *my age* listened to punk. I was like "What era do you think punk comes from? Not yours!"

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:29pm

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I think it very well might. A girl of 12 who is hooked on makeup might very well become a woman of 30, 40 or 50 who is a fashion victim and a surgical frequent flyer. Better to let her wear her lipstick on Saturday nights only and try to get her into a more balanced frame of mind wrt her appearance and its importance in the grand scheme of things, imo.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:29pm

I am in the habit of inspecting my face everyday.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:31pm
You are right up my alley Chaotic!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:31pm
I did not ask you to defend your mother. I simply said that I would not do as she did and for good reasons.

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