Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:39pm

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My dh does give a hoot about his appearance. He stays fit, washes his face, shaves it, conditions it, takes good care of his teeth, makes sure his lips aren't chapped. He looks great. If I do all those things, I look okay, too. Some of us think wearing makeup every day amounts to an unhealthy obsession.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:39pm
Being healthy and fit and being positive/optimist can certainly help, but don't you know people who are all 3 and still not that attractive (physically I mean, rather than attractive as people).

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:40pm
I agree. It is really frightening. But hey, my mom doesn't like the things I wear either.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:41pm
I started at around 14 and had a very similar experience.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:41pm
Why does a woman "need" makeup in order to be considered attractive to you? Why does a man "not" need makeup in order to be considered attractive? What is the point of trying to look younger than your years?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:42pm

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No, I don't know.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:44pm
Who is supposed to teach this stuff? I can't since I do not wear it. I do talk to dd about it and share my meager knowledge on the subject, but I have no idea what all the products are or how they are used.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:44pm
Of course I do, but I don't really know that many people IRL who look attractive by Desperate Housewives standards, either, no matter how hard they work at it. I think most people who are fit, healthy, and show a positive attitude are about as attractive as they need to be, both men and women. A little sunblock helps a lot, too.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:45pm

"Some of us think wearing makeup every day amounts to an unhealthy obsession."


Why is it unhealthy for a grown woman?

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:46pm
It does have a lot to do with makeup for alot of people.

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