Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:02pm
I'm certainly not against people wearing whatever uniform the job requires, including face makeup. I thought you were asking what makes a person attractive, not what makes them blend into the crowd.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:02pm
You've got to be kidding! When I'm 80, why should I give a rat's patootie if people think I'm 80 or 70? Holy cannoli, doesn't it ever end???
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:02pm

And for some of us, having flawless, made up skin helps with the 'tude.


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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:02pm
Your air of superiority gets old after a while. I and all of my friends were very nerdy. My mom wore mascara when she went out. My dad hates makeup. I still wanted to wear makeup. Maybe DD won't ask to wear makeup, since we plan to avoid exposing her to most modern media.


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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:03pm
Word.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:04pm
Maybe I see the issue.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:05pm

My dh does give a hoot about his appearance. He stays fit, washes his face, shaves it, conditions it, takes good care of his teeth, makes sure his lips aren't chapped. He looks great.


A couple posts back, you said to me that your dh only looks at his face to shave it.

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:05pm

Im not sure how something that takes a few minutes a day can be an "unhealthy obsession".

And I find it interesting that you outlined your husband's routine and said it made him look "great" but then applied to yourself and said it made you look "okay".

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:08pm

You implied that your daughter should not associate with girls that wear makeup. That's more than just identifying something as associated with a certain class. In many areas of the US at least, girls -- even the really smart ones from upper middle class families-- start wearing makeup at around 12.

Your posts are insulting. If I said: people from lower classes eat at buffets a lot-- that would be accurate. If I said: I would wonder about her peer group, if my DD was invited by friends to eat at a buffet, it would be insulting.



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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:09pm
I'm not at all sure what you mean by "air of superiority". I described the young girls in my community, with my best guess as to why makeup isn't popular with them. I really had nothing to do with it, except in my own family of course.

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