Advice: The big "talk"
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Advice: The big "talk"
| Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am |
Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.
My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?
She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).
Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.
What is everyone's opinion?

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Why does it matter?
PumpkinAngel
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Well, he doesn't stay near a mirror while brushing his teeth; he tends to wander around, dribbling toothpaste in his wake. He puts his lip balm on the same way, also his skin moisturizer. His gym has very few mirrors. So, yeah, his face isn't something he looks at a lot.
As I explained, I do wear some makeup, and I don't disapprove of it. I just think a lot of people take it to an extreme, and I think it's inappropriate for children. If that makes me obsessed, then so be it.
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If you're not aware that millions upon millions of women are obsessed with their physical appearance, and their faces, then I don't know how to help that. I think it's perfectly true that makeup and appearance *can* indeed be an unhealthy obsession.
I probably do look great; I just don't want to be the one to say so ;-)
You implied in your post that girls having positive attributes such as being athletic or nerdy couldn't possibly be interested in makeup as well. And if my parents had just turned off the TV, I wouldn't have been interested in makeup either. But I'm sure you knew that-- although you will now say that you were trying to make no such implication. You were simply stating the facts.
Edited 2/28/2007 5:17 pm ET by geschichtsgal
I never said anything about looking younger than your years. Im 25, if I look any younger I get carded buying a 6 pack. Lol.
But since you brought it up what's wrong about looking younger for your years? Im not talking about getting a facelift, Im talking about putting a little highlighter in your laugh lines so theres no so much of a shadow, or putting some in a few spots around your eyes so they dont look so tired. Whats the problem with that?
As for the man/woman question. I really dont know what to tell you. Men and women are different. I dont think that is a bad thing. Personally I like getting dolled up sometimes, looking sexy, wearing high heels, tight jeans, etc. Maybe we can create a new, perfect world where no one judges based on looks, men and women dress the same and no one wears makeup. You can go live there. I will happily stay here with my eyeliner. Lol.
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