Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:20pm
LOL
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:22pm

Im not on board with a 7 year old wearing makeup either. I think puberty is the appropriate time to allow that to start.

But I dont think JCA's mom was some kind of wacko for giving her daughter a little blush at 7.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:22pm
I agree. There is something sad about women going to great lengths to look younger. I don't wearing makeup everyday fits in to the category of great lengths though. I also think there is a slippery slope wrt appearance. Slip too much and you look like Joan Rivers. Yikes!


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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:24pm
Well, you could probably do a research study. But as a parent, you get a sense after a while of what goes with what. Ime, girls who have a lot of interests are less likely to decide they need makeup or that they hate their noses or that their butt's too big. Just reporting my experience, guilty as charged.
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:25pm

Hmm. Good question.

I guess if you cared to have someone show her the "right" way to do it and to discuss colors and the shape of her face and all that...you could bring her to Sephora or a deparment store or something along those lines.

I think its important for a girl (who wants to wear makeup) to learn the way to make it work for her.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:25pm

I agree, I have always looked younger than my age and I don't wear makeup...my mother is the same.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:28pm
Then you are misunderstanding me and that is probably my fault. By peer group I mean her gang/clique/close friends. My dd associates with all kinds of people, all the time. But, if dd started hanging with a group that had radically different mores and values than the ones she was brought up with, AND started following them, I would worry. I do not think I am alone in this, as a mother.
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:29pm

I dont even know how to respond to this exactly.

I guess I think the person you described might be attractive just the way they are. But Id probably still think they'd look a little better with some mascara.

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:30pm
Obviously.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:30pm

A sensitive to another culture, I see.

PumpkinAngel

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