Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:33pm

Ok, so we arent on different planets then!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:34pm
The women at sephora are scary and the results of their efforts on customers equally so. Ditto for department stores. Besides, I am not about to spend a 100+ dollars on products for a teen. If it important enough to her she can go do that some day.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:36pm

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Sorry, I thought that your comment about social class was somehow related to the comment about worrying about her peer group.

I understand worrying about the choices my 12yo might be making, but I don't associate those choices with a social class. A certain clique perhaps, but IME cliques are made up of members of many different social classes.



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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:42pm

What a judgement.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:45pm

I never used to use a hair dryer either, but I found out that it actually makes my life easier.

I have really knotty hair. Its just wavy enough to not be curly and it's constantly knotting up. When I was a kid my mom went through CASES of No More Tangles. I used to have to comb it on and off all day to keep it from looking ratty and unkempt.

Then I discovered that a little bit of product and 10 minutes with the hair dryer eliminated the knots! Its easier for me this way.

I dont do all day ponytails because my hair is thick and heavy and after several hours of a ponytail dragging on my head, Ive got a serious headache. The only updo I can sport for hours without pain is having it all piled on top of my head Pebbles Flinstone style, and Im sorry, call me vain, but I simply cannot look like that in public. Lol.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:49pm

I think the original objection was blush on a 7 year old because they were too pale?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:49pm
This is a tricky one for me, since I will likely never encounter it. If I take after my mother, which I likely will, I will always look younger than I am. So is it fair to me to say others shouldn't strive to look younger? That's kind of why I stay out of that one. But, what I meant to point out, is that I think that taking care of oneself and protecting oneself from the sun, and minimizing stress and anxiety probably do more to make someone look younger.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:50pm
I have knotty hair too, which is why I can't deal with the drying. Trying to untangle it when wet is so painful. Lately I have lost a lot of hair and dd cut about half of it off, so it is easier to brush now, but I still can't stand having it in my face, so ponytail it is. At least the ponytail does not give me a headache anymore.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:51pm

Why would US cultures apply to sild and her dd?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:54pm

Wait a minute....what's the big difference you mentioned?


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Great, neither do I.

PumpkinAngel

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