Advice: The big "talk"

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Advice: The big "talk"
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am

Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.

My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?

She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).

Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.

What is everyone's opinion?

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:05pm
I'm 28 and I *do* get carded buying MATCHES. ROFL... PITA if you ask me. On the other hand, I got a LOT of dirty looks and comments when I had a 3yo and was quite visibly pregnant.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:06pm
Always looks like a horror show to me, and I have actually tried to observe carefully a few times. It is very difficult for me to imagine doing something like that with dd.
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:06pm

The only way I can untangle while wet without feeling like Im ripping half of it out is to brush it right before washing it. Then right after I get out I comb it with a really wide comb...then a brush. I will fully admit that its a P.I.T.A. and it would be easier for it to be short.

But I like it long and still have nightmares about the Dorothy Hammel number I sported in first grade when my mom got tired of trying to comb my hair!! Lol.

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:07pm

I agree. That is amazing.

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:10pm
I meant scented moisturizer. :)
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:10pm

Well, I think it makes me much more laid back about things like clothes and music, because I have the hindsight of seeing just how harmless it usually is.

OTOH, being the teen *I* was means dd gets away with very little. I was very sly and got away with SO much-I am always onto my dd and her shenanigans. Not much gets by me. I have great intuition too, and can read her like a book. She hates it, lol.

dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:11pm
I think a comb might go though mine now, but until the hairloss and dd chopping off about half of it, anytime I tried the comb, the comb broke halfway down.
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:13pm

Thats interesting. Ive never really taken note of other people getting it done. I only ever watched while I was there with my neighbor.

The makeup artist didnt put anything on her skin, did some mascara, some light shades of eyeshadow, a little bit of blush and a very pale pink lip gloss. While she was doing it she explained why she wasnt doing eyeliner, why she was applying the blush where she was, why she was choosing the colors, etc.

It looked very pretty and natural and appropriate on a 14 year old going to a dance.

I guess we got lucky!!

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:15pm

Haha, Ive been known to snap the handles off of brushes.

Not every time though. Your hair sounds even more difficult than mine!!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 6:16pm

I liked those too. I liked the ones with the embellishments too. But then, I sometimes think I am part raccoon-I am drawn to shiny things, LOL.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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