Advice: The big "talk"
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Advice: The big "talk"
| Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am |
Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.
My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?
She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).
Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.
What is everyone's opinion?

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Well Im only operating on a single experience here. The woman didnt do that awful bright reddish orange stripe thing across her cheeks that some people wear. My neighbor has very fair skin with really dark hair and it would have looked even more garish on her than on the average person!
The woman doing the makeup did a pale pink blush right on the apples of her cheeks. It looked pretty natural and understated to me.
if there's one connection i feel with my girls now and hopefully ongoing,it's empathy......the first time i did that was when we were going through dd1's condition in another state. it used to break my heart,terribly that she froze in public places,not saying a word. what helped break the ice was when i used to say ellie,when i was your age,i used to be scared to talk (i was a very shy kid,too) and it's ok. her little 5 year old eyes used to get so big when i said that..........and now,it's amazing how that continues. when she or her sister come home from school and say something about friends,about school work,etc,it's delightful to approach it in a "when i was your age...." sort of way.
there's so much i learn from them,too. just the other day,my dd1 picked out a pair of skinny khakis she wanted to wear to school. she hadn't worn them before so when she pulled them on,she told me they reminded her of joupers (sp..the horse riding pant). my reaction was a wow. what are those? tell me more. lol.
Edited 2/28/2007 8:37 pm ET by egd3blessed
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I think maybe some men should, lol!
Actually I like that metrosexual look. A little black eyeliner, some nail polish on an otherwise manly-man. HOT. Of course I'm also secretly in love with David Beckham so go figure!
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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