Advice: The big "talk"
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Advice: The big "talk"
| Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am |
Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.
My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?
She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).
Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.
What is everyone's opinion?

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FTR, I do not mind at all, although geschichtsgal seems to think that I do. My grandpa always told me the story of how his snobby mom had instructed him not to play with the kids in the street (massive class difference in that case) and how he decided to disregard her. As he told me, he never understood what she was so concerned about since they turned out to be "right decent chaps."
The thing is that my grandpa was himself a very decent person and a very secure person. All his life he "played" with every conceivable sort of person, but never compromised his own sense of integrity and of who he was. My dh, btw, is very similar in this regard. However, if I saw that some association was making dd compromise herself in some way, that would be a different matter. It would show that she was lacking balance and security somewhere in her life, so I would want to do something about it.
How is it classism to observe that class exists? I prefer not to pretend that it does not exist, since it clearly does. That I am willing to observe it, call it by its name and deal with it as a reality do not mean that I consider it something of paramount importance in my life.
In the US, it is common to equate economic status with social class. This habit means that most Americans will maintain that they live in a classless society, just a society in which some people have more money than others. Since it is the land of the free, they argue, anyone can theoretically make a million bucks tomorrow, so the observable differences are chalked up to income differences and not any fixed social mores.
I disagree with this way of looking at it and think it does a disservice to many people. Scratch the surface ever so lightly and there is plenty of social class in the US as well. It is not all about money and I think it is a mistake to think that it is. The behaviors of Britney Spears and of Paris Hilton can equally be chalked up to their low-class upbringing, money is not the issue.
celebrity-dames like BS and PH do not exist,irl..my dds saw BS on the today show the other week and asked why she shaved her head? i just said it was becase of who she is,the celebrity. a hollywood thing.
>>In the US, it is common to equate economic status with social class. This habit<<
not in younger years. if it does,it's parents' attitudes that rub off,not the child.....as time goes on,sure. i believe universally (not just u.s.),we tend to relate ourselves with our own kind. while i'm married to my polar opposite wrt ambition,personality,he and my common denominator is a middle class family.
tbh,i'd like to know where it starts. classism and all. is it human nature to associate more with our own or is it done on purpose? i don't ever want my kids to feel they are *more* of something or *less* of something because of what they have. way too artificial.
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Sure they do. Much as we might occasionally wish it, Britney and Paris are not imaginary. They exist. IRL and everything.
And there are whackjobs out among us, who are not celebrities, who are every bit as screwed up as those two. But, not being celebrities, they don't make the national headlines. Doesn't mean they aren't real. Just means no one cares.
The first thing that occurred to me is class differences concerning higher ed.
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