Advice: The big "talk"
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Advice: The big "talk"
| Sun, 02-18-2007 - 7:28am |
Okay, I need advice on when people started or will start to have the big "talk" with their kids.
My oldest is going to be 9 next week. I have some friends telling me they already had this talk with their children at this age. She just seems so young to me. She still plays house, school and dolls with her little sister. IMO, telling her about sex is going to take some innocence away from her. But, am I sheltering her too much?
She knows about periods and body hair development. She already has little breats "bumps" (as she likes to call "em).
Agghhh..I really thought I had until she was 12 to have this talk like my mother did.
What is everyone's opinion?

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just wow.
if i had to stick up for a favorite movie,it w/b a time to kill. the whole movie was great,but the ending of it was especially great. have you seen it? morgan freeman tells his white attorney (mathew mccaughnehey) that they'll never be friends,that he's from poverty and the sticks while attorney folks like him live in posh,affluent land. at the end of the movie,attorney and his family attend a party at the black family's house.
this is a movie i do allow my kids to watch iwth parental supervision.....one of those life lessons about class separation that really does not need to exist unless you're a bigot.
Whatever you may think of Paris Hilton's behaviour, she's a member of the upper class simply because she was born very wealthy. You are using the adjective "classy" and the noun "class" as though they were synonymous. They are not. A person can exhibit "classy" behaviour regardless of what social/economic class they are in. And I used "social/economic" class as though they were synonymous because in the US they are. A very poor person with impeccable behaviour doesn't get to be called a member of the upper class, even though his behaviour makes him "a classy guy".
In the US, as elsewhere, class is what you are born into. Americans would like to ditch that but haven't truly. So Britney Spears is called wealthy but not a member of the upper class purely because she was born lower middle class. But if she maintains her wealth (it could happen), her kids will be members of the upper class.
How do you think social class happens, after all? It is NOT defined by behaviour anywhere in the world. I'm willing to bet a person born "lower class" can't get people to call them a member of the upper class regardless of how impeccably they behave even in Greece. But perhaps it can be faked if that person behaves in a way that makes it seem they were born into a different class than the one they actually were born into.
It isn't connected purely to wealth everywhere, of course. In many countries it's connected to genetic bloodline- royal blood. Which is also something you have to be born into as surely as you have to born into money to be called upper class in the US. The whole concept of "royal blood" is something Americans have succeeded in ditching which is what I think people really mean when calling America a classless society (which it isn't, because money got substiuted for genetics). But the difference is that people can climb class, it just takes more than one generation. People can drop class too. This isn't particularly well documented (the way that the class climbing stories are) but an awareness of its possibility must be out there or malls in middle class areas wouldn't have sales kiosks devoted to documenting the theoretical upper class European origins of one's last name.
greek culture is huge in the south....but in other areas,i think it lives up to a stereotype. my bf is on the npc for her sorority. every year during rush,it drives her absolutely crazy because they must compete with the big girls. it's very politcal there - all about who you are and what you look like,behind kissing and hugs,and how much daddy makes. lol.
Edited 3/1/2007 9:33 am ET by egd3blessed
Yes, I did say that some of us think daily makeup amounts to an obsession, because that's my opinion.
<< My statement replied to the idea that its unhealthy to wear makeup every day. I dont think thats true. I honestly spend under 5 minutes putting on makeup. Im dont see how that in and of itself can amount to an "unhealthy obsession".>>
I didn't say it's always unhealthy to wear makeup every day. I said that some of us think so. Clearly, you disagree.
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I agree that a pubescent girl who is dying to wear makeup might be allowed some lip gloss for special occasions. There's some distance between allowing some experimentation versus shutting her out. But curiosity alone doesn't always cut much ice with me. A 10- or 12-year-old might be curious as heck about what it's like to go out on a date with a boy, but that doesn't mean I'm going to let her.
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