Is this an age related thing?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Is this an age related thing?
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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 9:45am

(Totally OT, not SAH/WOH related, so feel free to not respond)


I went out with 5 other women to dinner last night.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2006
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:26pm

I can only guess there is a need for attention or they thrive on the debate. And judging from a few responses to my posts that I read this morning, they are trying to instigate more silly arguments or provoking me. (Like 'Hope you feel better' response to a post asking for some proof or evidence) <>

The "im done debating" and "take care" post do get old...

Short of a visual demonstration, there is nothing more I can offer as proof. I've given my evidence in form of actual, real code. I've given my experiences. But apparently none of that matters to her. Makes me wonder how anyone can make it in the business world if they never take the advice or opinion of a person more experienced than them.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2000
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:39pm

Well, perhaps it is a regional thing then b/c it is NOT common here (Wash DC area) to have separate checks. I don't think the waiter is assuming anything by giving one check b/c that is how it has NORMALLY been done here. It has always been a standard here that ONE check is given at the end of a a meal, unless the patrons specifically ask ahead of time for separate checks (which, in all my years of dining w/groups, is rare). Separate checks seems to be an invention that began with automated/computerized systems. I can't imagine a waitress years ago, when bills were done by hand, splitting checks for a group of people.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-01-2003
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:39pm

>>I mostly agree. But having the bills split up already makes it easier for the waitress in that it is easier to see what goes with what card.<<

in that sense i agree with you - although it can be just as easy to put the wrong credit card with the wrong bill when you have ten or so in your hand, and all the cards are about the same. it happens!

>> Yes, I think that your *normal* is far out of the norm for most of the country. I can't think of a single restaurant here that does not accept debit cards or a single restaurant where all of the entrees are over $20. I'm fairly well travelled, and have yet to have visited a place where this is the case.<<

basically places that have cheaper entrees (we are talking abotu dinner yes?) are greasy spoons, diners, or local joints that operate on a cash only basis. they are small, fast paced and inexpensive. other sit down resteraunts that accept credit cards are expensive. even the chain resteraunts here are expensive. i haven't gone out to dinner and spent less than $20 per person in oh my, probably ten years or so. its more like $30 - $50 per person when you add in drinks and apps.

>>There are many ATMs here as well, but it still adds 5 minutes or so to my trip to get money out of the ATM. And I can't ask for exact change at a bank if I don't know how much my entree/appetizer/dessert or whatever costs beforehand-- which is normally the case.<<

so you can't hit the ATM when you're already out and about? this is a mindset i don't understand. if i know i'm going out that night, or that wekend, i simply get cash (if i need it) when i'm already out - no special trip required. i can get cash back at the grocery store, i can use the bank or ATM at the grocery store, or while i'm getting gas, or stopping by to get milk at my local corner store...i can even get cash when i deposit money into the bank. there's about a thousand ways i can get cash without making a special trip or big ordeal for it. and you don't have to get exact change to the penny, but i'm sure you know about how much you'll spend - i know wheni go to such and such resteraunt dinenr and drinks will cost about $x much - thus thats how much i take out.

>>If 3 of us go out to eat and we all order something costing $7 or so and we all have 20s-- we would be giving the waitress $60 dollars to cover a $21 buck tab. Seems silly to do that and say-- we need 3 tens and 9 dollar bills back please.<<

first, a good waitress will provide a variety of bills for change you shouldn't really need to ask (but sometimes you do)- however how is it more inconvienient to ask your waitress to break $60 in one shot than it is to break $20 bills 3 seperate times, or ring up three seperate credit cards?

>>Especially since so many people don't pay w/ cash now. If this was done frequently, I imagine the waitstaff would eventually have trouble making change.<<

the reseraunt has plenty of cash in house to make change - regardless of the frequency of credit card use. particualrly if the resteraunt has a bar. this won't be a problem LOL.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2000
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:42pm

We just went out to dinner on Friday night with another couple - it was a pretty expensive meal, and the waitress brought one check even though it was clear we were two separate couples (we arrived at different times). We are all educated people and had no problem figuring out how to split the bill at the end of the meal.

It simply is NOT the norm here to give separate checks w/o specific request. That's the way it has always been where I live.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:44pm

If was not a concern or a problem for you there is no logical reason for you continue to worry and carry on about who iam or not posting to.

You have the right to do whatever you would like just as i do and everyone else here.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:48pm

I have to disagree and I dont need ppl to agree with me Iam a big girl, i can easily hold my own.

oh btw, ppl have agreed with me but i dont need there argreement to know Iam "100% correct"

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:50pm

Why would it be any different in a busy resturaunt AND bar?

Since in my area and my resturuant the floor is just as busy if not busier at times than the bar.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2006
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:55pm

You even admitted to not knowing code, yet you are positive you are 100% correct??

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2000
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:57pm

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Can you clarify please? What is "not even standard" on the East Coast? That restaurants don't typically ask if there are going to be separate checks? I've lived my entire 39 years (with the exception of 6 months in Italy and 7 months in Hawaii) on the East Coast and it most certainly IS standard NOT to automatically offer separate checks at restaurants. While there definitely are restaurants who will do separate checks WHEN REQUESTED, it is NOT the standard here for a waitress to ask if it is going to be separate checks.

In the last month and a half, I have dined out with groups at least four times in a variety of restaurants (Mexican chain restaurant, high end Italian restaurant, local Irish pub, and a seafood restaurant). Not a single place asked if there were going to be separate checks, and no one in any of the groups even requested one.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 12:57pm

Um no it is not my software we dont use that type of soft ware but i have actually used it not seen it! If what you say is true how is that not more time consuming then hit in one table number then the order than having to hit a seat number every time you put in a order for one table.

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