Is this an age related thing?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is this an age related thing?
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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 9:45am

(Totally OT, not SAH/WOH related, so feel free to not respond)


I went out with 5 other women to dinner last night.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 11:53am

I may be blonde but iam not dumb no matter how hard you try. You stated service, good service and bad service. So i responded as i did. YOu "dont have" a anser to the question" or you "refuse" to answer it. "why dont you just admit it"

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 11:58am
Dh and I dig dives, some of ouf favorite spots are dives. :) And all walks of life hand out there the rich the poor the middle calss and the homeless.
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Registered: 03-15-2007
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 2:08pm
Then why are you calling me names? Apparently we agree.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2007
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 2:10pm
No, you don't get it, because what you said my point was wasn't my point at all.
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Registered: 03-15-2007
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 2:15pm
BUT when I said "up to par" it's VERY VERY VERY obvious that I'm speaking of patrons, not waitstaff. You went on a rant about me insulting waitstaff. Read slower, my dear.
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Registered: 01-12-2004
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 5:57pm

LOL. I have wanted to say that at least 20 times!!

Robin

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Registered: 09-14-2006
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 6:52pm
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 7:53pm
Thank you for weighing in here. I will certainly give your comments all the consideration they deserve.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 7:55pm
No, not at all. If a business tells me no to a reasonable request, I just figure the business isn't set up to provide the level of service I expect and will not return. That way, we'll both be happy.
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 7:58pm

>>I would just assume when she goes to make the check she would realize they hadn't told her anything and she would ask because of how you describe the group.<<

i'm confused (and not being snarky) i though all checks were split regardless of the wiatressing asking or not? (unless otherwise instructed by teh customer for one check). it would seem to me that this isn't actually the case, but rather on an individual basis. and for taht matter, why would a server automatically split a check for anyone without asking? or more simply put - it would seem taht the server would always have to ask before splitting a check. otherwise the check doesn't get split.

>>the waitress could assume it was a family. otoh, the 17-19 year olds could be dating and one of them could be the child of the two older adults and maybe one of them wanted to pay for the 'date'. Or the two older ppl could be married but not to each other, and maybe one of them is the parent of all the kids, or just one or two. It could even be a boss and employees. <<

and this is teh reason why its customary (here) for a check to be prepared alltogether as one when not otherwise instructed. tehre are simply too many variables to assume or guess how a check should be prepared. if teh check is given all as one, the party then has the option of divying it up themselves, or in some places asking the server to split it after the fact (thats rare IME). FWIW, in the example i wa sthinking that the man and woman were siblings, the adolescent was the woman's daughter, and teh teens were dating (the gir being the daughter of the man) but her date would pay for her, her father pays for himself, and the woman pays for herself and daughter.

>>If it was a man and woman in their 20s and two small children I could see why a waitress would automatically bring just one check, but if it was a group of women (or women and men mixed) like we've been discussing the whole thread, around here they would probably be split.<<

but thats a total assumption too. if it is customary to split a check regardless, then putting it all on one tab is the assumptive action - people like me and my oldest brotehr go out all the time - and we certainly aren't married! we wouldn't ask for a separet check either...but the idea that one is assuming/assesing our groups relationships is creepy to me.

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