Almost June

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Almost June
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Tue, 05-27-2014 - 1:31pm

The year is just flying by, can't believe it is almost June already.

1. Do you have many celebrations in the month of June?

2. What one alcoholic drink (if you can pick just one) do you enjoy in the summer?

3. At a BBQ, which one would you rather have, a hot dog or hamburger?

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 5:02pm
blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Yep, it depends on where you live, who you are and who you know. I've heard of grad parties, even sweet 16 parties costing upwards of twenty thousand.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Yep. Vacation is not cheap and we are doing that instead of a party. </span></strong></p>

A graduation or 16th birthday party?  

Sweet 16. We are only up to that so far. lol

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 5:03pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
I know, we have been through this conversation before. I would never go someplace empty-handed but that is just me.

Riiight, and you still cannot imagine that there are situations where people gather without a passing dish requirement.

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 5:04pm
blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Unless it's potluck, or I've been requested to do so, I don't bring anything to parties hosted by others.  That doesn't mean I'm not generous.  I might bring the hostess a gift. Or I might send him/her  thank you gift after the event.  Also, there are many ways to be generals and "do something" for friends that don't include bringing things to parties.</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>I know, we have been through this conversation before. I would never go someplace empty-handed but that is just me.</span></span></strong></p>

That would be the point of the host gift...

We don't really do "host" gifts here. We usually bring food and drinks. VERY rarely would I bring a gift unless it was a birthday, anniversary, graduation, etc.

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 5:05pm

Riiight, and you still cannot imagine that there are situations where people gather without a passing dish requirement.

You are a day late and a dollar short and missed some of my posts. Sigh....
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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 5:06pm

<<That's interesting, are you assuming that no hostess gift was given? Nope, I don't assume anything. >>

Then why are you talking about never coming empty handed?   

<<You just brought food, without asking or having the hostess ask you to bring something? Yep, always do and they always appreciative, especially at a big party, like a BBQ. If it is a dinner party and we have not been asked to do a potluck, then I would ask what they would like. If no food is needed or wanted, I would still bring a bottle of wine or flowers or something small. >>

So my question was do you bring food without asking and you answered, yes always do then waffle back to you ask if it's not a potluck, then to you bring a hostess gift.  So you always do, except when you don't?

<<As for doing things for friends, that's kinda the point of hosting a party, wouldn't you think?  lol I guess in your circle. In our circle we are always doing things for one another.>>

Isn't that what I just said, perhaps you could take a moment to read what you are responding to?


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 5:07pm

I am willing to bet that this has more to do with homogeneity of social circle than geographic location.

Probably when you live in the same place and work in the same place for a very very long time, you come to think that what is done in your small circle is the norm in the rest of the world. It's not. Your experience is limited due to your self-admitted lack of varied life experience.

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 5:08pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You haven't ever been to an event or a restaurant that has a buffet that is replinished with the same food?  Every single time it's been new things not a fresh tray of the same food?  Interesting.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Of course, at catering halls and restaurants that have parties. I DID say I DO replenish chips, veggies, dip, those kind of things. </span></strong></p>

So again, then why are you having such a hard time understanding that same concept outside of a reception hall or restaurant?  

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 5:09pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Yes, but there are a lot of parties the summer after graduation...there isn't any way that my kid (or us if we are also invited) can go to all of them and spend the evening at each and every one of them. &amp;nbsp;There were like 8 or 9 this past weekend alone, many of them overlapped.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Unfortunately, then you might not be able to go to all of them. That seems like a lot of money too, to go to that many. How much do you usually give the graduate?</span></strong></p>

That's exactly what we have been saying, it's next to impossible to go to all the parties one is invited to. As for gift giving, it depends on how close my son is to the graduate.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 5:09pm

So my question was do you bring food without asking and you answered, yes always do then waffle back to you ask if it's not a potluck, then to you bring a hostess gift.  So you always do, except when you don't?

Yes, I do bring something, depending on the venue and the host as after awhile, you know what to bring or who to ask what they need. If you are considering flowers a hostess gift (which I have once brought to a 60th anniversary as they wanted no gifts), then yes. Otherwise the wine is something we open and is not just for the host. 


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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 5:10pm

I am willing to bet that this has more to do with homogeneity of social circle than geographic location.

Probably when you live in the same place and work in the same place for a very very long time, you come to think that what is done in your small circle is the norm in the rest of the world. It's not. Your experience is limited due to your self-admitted lack of varied life experience.

Nope I am very aware of what goes on in different parts of the country as I DID mention Southern weddings. Sigh....

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