Almost June

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Almost June
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Tue, 05-27-2014 - 1:31pm

The year is just flying by, can't believe it is almost June already.

1. Do you have many celebrations in the month of June?

2. What one alcoholic drink (if you can pick just one) do you enjoy in the summer?

3. At a BBQ, which one would you rather have, a hot dog or hamburger?

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Wed, 05-28-2014 - 7:02pm

Wine and flowers are examples of a host gift, yes.   Taking food to an event when you have been told not to bring anything can be considered rude by many people, but I'm sure you remember that from many discussions on the subject.

When did I say I brought food when told not to? 

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Wed, 05-28-2014 - 7:03pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Yes, but there are a lot of parties the summer after graduation...there isn't any way that my kid (or us if we are also invited) can go to all of them and spend the evening at each and every one of them. &amp;nbsp;There were like 8 or 9 this past weekend alone, many of them overlapped.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Unfortunately, then you might not be able to go to all of them. That seems like a lot of money too, to go to that many. How much do you usually give the graduate?</span></strong></p>

It costs the same for me no matter how many parties. Because if I'm giving the kid a gift; I"m giving the kid a gift.   Having a party or not, attending said party or not, has no bearing on whether or not I give gifts to the graduates.  This year, I gave gifts to four (local) graduates.  Only two of them had a party - only one that I attended.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 7:04pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>blackandwhitemolly</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Unless it's potluck, or I've been requested to do so, I don't bring anything to parties hosted by others.  That doesn't mean I'm not generous.  I might bring the hostess a gift. Or I might send him/her  thank you gift after the event.  Also, there are many ways to be generals and "do something" for friends that don't include bringing things to parties.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="text-align:left"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:x-small"&gt;&lt;span&gt;I know, we have been through this conversation before. I would never go someplace empty-handed but that is just me.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">That would be the point of the host gift...</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>We don't really do "host" gifts here. We usually bring food and drinks. VERY rarely would I bring a gift unless it was a birthday, anniversary, graduation, etc.</strong></p>

So the bottle of wine or flowers that you mentioned earlier would be for the guest to share? not for the hostess?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Wed, 05-28-2014 - 7:04pm

....and yet, you can't grasp the concept of replinishing food at an event.

Again, read my posts when I CLEARLY said I DO replenish food. I did say it in at least 2 posts. 

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Wed, 05-28-2014 - 7:06pm

That might not be feasible for many.  If family has come in from out of town, or out of the state - or even out of the country - for the graduation ceremony, they might not be able to come back for a graduation party that's later on.  And, ime, kids scatter in the summer.  I have a hard time rounding up kids for summer birthday parties, much less a graduation party.     I suppose it happens, but I haven't seen it.

We all have different experiences. I have seen it and experienced it before so it does happen. I am sure it happens all over too, not just in my "region". 

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Wed, 05-28-2014 - 7:09pm

So the bottle of wine or flowers that you mentioned earlier would be for the guest to share? not for the hostess?

The flowers I brought for the annivesary couple as they requested no gifts and they were very close neighbors. Yes, the wine I have brought is usually put out for the guests. 

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 7:27pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">We don't give cash.  We give gifts.  Rarely, a gift card.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">How much would you spend if you have a ton of parties to go to?</span></strong></p>
. My standard gift for graduates who are going to college is a collegiate quillow.  Those run around $50.  If we are particularly close to the family, we give more.  We bought the first twar's textbooks for my niece (set up an account in the college bookstore).

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 7:30pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">We don't give cash.  We give gifts.  Rarely, a gift card.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">How much would you spend if you have a ton of parties to go to?</span></strong></p>
. My standard gift for graduates who are going to college is a collegiate quillow.  Those run around $50.  If we are particularly close to the family, we give more.  We bought the first twar's textbooks for my niece (set up an account in the college bookstore).

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 7:54pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p>You dont work full time Bord. </p>

Ooh, your incessant jealousy of professional, highly educated women rears its ugly head again, Molly. It's not a good reflection on you.

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Wed, 05-28-2014 - 8:01pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Oh, I get it...I have to repeat what I have already written, but you can't be bothered to do the same.  lol  </p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">So if you knew that a meal could be made out of healthy sides at a party you just recently attended, why ask a question when you already knew the answer?</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Nope, not really. Maybe to some it would be considered a meal, not to me. </strong></p>

But we've long since established you have the unhealthy habit of refusing to see any meal without an animal protein of some kind to be beneath your dignity.  Hence what constitutes a meal for you isn't relevant, because you dismiss any protein that had no face.  For educated people who understand the nature of proteins as a whole, as long as the sides include proteins of *some* kind, they can be considered a meal.

I have no idea why we should be taking your opinion  as valid when you just expressed shock at the idea of a host/hostess paying for their own dinner party.

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