? and a brief update....

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? and a brief update....
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 9:56am

We went to Zak's therapist yesterday and she gave a great report. She said that Zak was very bright and well adjusted and had no behavioral issues. She recommended that I be more constinent in my expectations (dog trainer said the same thing) and there should be less yelling. She recommended that I take him off the Prozac at the end of the school year. Huge relief.


I talked to her about Alex's pacifier use. I have not taken it away because it was another loss for him and because I don't really want to deal with it. She said I really need to and suggested having a party.

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:10am

Hey that's great news about Zak!

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:22am

Hi!
Congrats on both Zak and the new puppy! I don't have any advice on the pacifier thing, my DD would never take a pacifier. She is near 3 and *still* wants a bottle, which she gets once in a while when all the tippy cups are dirty LOL.

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 11:15am

Kristi, from one mom to another...leave the pacifer alone.

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 11:27am

She recommended a book "Assertive Discipline" and I ordered it this morning. She also recommended that I write down my expectations and the consquence if the expectation is not met. We already do this so I felt good about it.


I don't yell as much as I used to. My stress level is far, far down from where it was. I am trying very hard to not yell at all. I would greatly appreciate some hints too.


I told her I tried a behavioral chart with Zak when he was 5. He designed one for me and I got alot of unhappy faces the first day. I quit after that. Zak is always two steps ahead me so it is great that he

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:12pm
I've heard people say that they limit the pacifier use to bedtime/naptime only. They've tried leaving the pacifier in a container near the bed and it can't be taken away from the bed or in the kids' room and it can't be taken out of the room.

Personally, though, I stopped stressing about my dd's pacifier use. She still uses it and I figure she'll eventually get rid of it. For now, it's not doing harm. (She'll need braces anyway from the look of her parents teeths so that's a non issue -LOL!)
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:26pm
That's great news. Sorry, no advice to give.

Hmmm, inquiring minds want to know - new puppy? Kristi looking to spend more time with said dog trainer who may be interested in her? I remember that! Care to comment, hmmm?

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:32pm
We're having the paci fairy come in the next few weeks and give him a Power Wheels Truck for all his pacis. I've been saying that pacis are for babies and Chase does what Alex does and says HE'S a baby! So I've been playing up the paci fairy thing and really talking it up. I'll let you know how it goes.

Hang in there! Hugs, C

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:38pm

Cal still has his paci. He hasn't been allowed to take it out of the house for over a year. And in the past 2 weeks, he's not been allowed to have it except at bedtime. It goes "away" every morning when he gets up and "comes back" at bedtime.


*I* am not ready to deal with the consequences of taking it away. He's having all sorts of sleep issues right now anyway ... i can't imagine the hell it would be if he didn't have his paci.

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:43pm

Said dog trainer is married. I knew it. I was a little disappointed but not too badly. I was more upset that I thought he was flirting with me when he was just being nice (and flirting a tad). A friend said that he probably doesn't have many young, single cute clients. She might be right.


The puppy was supposedly a mix between a border collie and a dalmation or lab. I have looking up different breeds and she looks a lot like a German short haired pointer. She is speckled and just adorable. I have fallen in love with her. I just hope the big dogs take to her. They are neutered so hopefully they won't molest her. She is spayed. Cross your fingers and hope!


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 7:40pm
All three of my kids took pacifiers, however, ds1 was most attached to his. like 24/7 attached. we just sort of non-chalantly "lost" his one day, and just couldnt find it.....and they cost too much to buy new ones.... he went for it. i dont know if your little guy will, but lee did. my other two kids just sort of became disinterested. we naturally "lost" theirs too, and they said, ok, whatever, and went on.

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