Are you on time? Are your kids?

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Are you on time? Are your kids?
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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 5:49pm

Do you arrive for work, doctor appointments, social events, etc on time?  What events (if any) warrant being early for?  Is there anything you purposely show up late for?  Explain. 

How about your kids? 

 

 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 1:13pm

No, You're supposed to believe that b/c they don't stick around you shouldn't either, Lol.  The world really is bigger htan this.   

lol. Again, I never understood the big deal about this. It is a normal thing in my circles, for both kids so not just saying one circle of people but many from different areas, schools, etc. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 1:16pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
Your interpretation is that adults (I'll specify moms IME) "crash" kids' parties. That's not what it is but I don't expect you to understand that if you've never actually stuck around.

WRONG. I've stated before that I've stuck around for itty bitty b/c of her allergies. I always talk to the parents about it beforehand and I find telling them that I'll be there to administer the epi-pen should she go into anaphylaxis is a big relief for them. If you're not used to it, that's scary stuff. I understand that. My presence ensures that my kid has as normal of a childhood as possible. But I'm not there to socialize. I'm there to keep my kid alive. That is totally not on the same level. And I would never, ever, ever bring someone else w/me. Because that's rude. And I don't eat the cake b/c itty bitty can't. She brings her own safe cupcake.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 1:17pm

Spring, if the parents of little kids are staying because everyone loves to socialize together since they all know each other, wouldn't the same logic hold when the kids get older? The reason to stay at a middle school party would be the same - a chance for the parents to socialize.

No, again, I said, it depends on the type of party. An outside party many parents stay because it is not close to home or there is no reason to leave for an hour and a half as by the time you go back home or wherever you go, you have to turn right back around. For a home party, most often the kids get dropped off UNLESS, like I explained the kind of bday parties my friend has in the summer, most of the parents stay as it is just not a party but a get together BBQ and stay later on in the night to hang out. By middle school, the parties are not as often and the same as the ones in elementary school. IME, the ones my oldest have gone to are sleepovers. Sweet 16's will be next and unless we are good friends or they are family, those will be drop offs and pick ups too. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 1:18pm

WRONG. I've stated before that I've stuck around for itty bitty b/c of her allergies. I always talk to the parents about it beforehand and I find telling them that I'll be there to administer the epi-pen should she go into anaphylaxis is a big relief for them. If you're not used to it, that's scary stuff. I understand that. My presence ensures that my kid has as normal of a childhood as possible. But I'm not there to socialize. I'm there to keep my kid alive. That is totally not on the same level. And I would never, ever, ever bring someone else w/me. Because that's rude. And I don't eat the cake b/c itty bitty can't. She brings her own safe cupcake.

I can't see any parent even blinking an eye to staying for any reason for a child that young, again, IME. Do they only have cake at those type of parties too? I have always been offered food, drinks and cake and have always purchased the same for other parents at the parties I have had.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 1:21pm
Honestly spring, It is common in other circles too. I still remember DD2's 9th or 10th bd when we lived in Texas. Moms walked their daughters up to the stoop and while some did just drop off a couple others and I talked and socialized there too, It was nice to have that extra company actually. Who brought up that this is helicoptering or leads to protective parents at teenager parties then too? Not that either one is a bad idea considering the alternative...

 

 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 1:26pm

You are wrong to assume that moms sticking around for kids' parties means they're crashing them. The objection is also that sticking around is some rude intrusion b/c moms aren't formally invited, Nonsense too.

 

 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 1:29pm

Jam-my 9 year old gets dropped off now (not many parties anymore as they usually get cut down around this age) if it is a home party (unless again, we know the family very well and it is more of a come over too thing) but my dh will go with him to places that are not around our home and stay as does the rest of the parents. I never thought twice as everyone does it. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 1:31pm

You are wrong to assume that moms sticking around for kids' parties means they're crashing them. The objection is also that sticking around is some rude intrusion b/c moms aren't formally invited, Nonsense too.

Yep, I never heard of anyone thinking the parent was "crashing" them. lol. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 1:33pm

DS has an autistic friend, They've been friends since 1st grade and he's a total sweetheart!  His mom and I are really good friends too. He has allergies and he is non-verbal. Mom has dropped him off at every bd party since living here. There are some things I know he can't eat but he's no stranger to the family and his mom and I have a wonderful, trustworthy relationship. That kind of clique is rather important if you ask me!  :)

 

 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 1:35pm

DS has an autistic friend, They've been friends since 1st grade and he's a total sweetheart, His mom and I are really good friends too. He has allergies and he is non-verbal. Mom has dropped him off at every bd party since living here. There are some things I know he can't eat but he's no stranger to the family and his mom and I have a wonderful, trustworthy relationship. That kind of clique is rather important if you ask me. :)

We are still friends with parents from my oldest's daycare (you are talking 10 years ago and kids not even in the same schools or even districts). Heck, my closests friends are from elementary, junior high and high school. We try to get together often but it is hard. Luckily we have done so last month, this weekend, and 2 more times so far next month. 

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