Are you on time? Are your kids?

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Are you on time? Are your kids?
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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 5:49pm

Do you arrive for work, doctor appointments, social events, etc on time?  What events (if any) warrant being early for?  Is there anything you purposely show up late for?  Explain. 

How about your kids? 

 

 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 11:54am

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why would you think they are more social, because they use kid parties to be social?  That says the opposite to me, we don't socialize normally so we need to go to the kid party to see everyone.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">No, it is just not the kids parties but other things that involve the kids. Many have known each other since their kids were in daycare together or preschool. They are in the same sports, same religion classes, activities, etc. </span></strong></p>

This may be part of the difference: DS has kids on his baseball team that don't go to his school. Only two of his church friends will go to middle school w/him next year (in a class of 9 confirmands) and they're girls, so they certainly don't overlap w/sports. So can you understand that the fact that our social circles are a bit wider w/o all the overlap explains why parents around here don't use kid's parties as social events... I have my "sports mom: friends, a few of whom overlap w/the "school mom" friends, none of whom overlap w/the "church mom" friends yet...it sounds like there is a bit more diversity around here.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 11:55am

springfever2013 wrote:
No, private planes do not require as much security, IME. </strong></div></div></div></div></div>

Well, I'm one of those tacky losers who always flies commercial airlines, so when *I* travel by plane, I have to have a full body pat down.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 11:55am

Yeah, Marla by middle-school, then I don't see the reason why all the parents would stay. I can see a few close friends and family but I would not stay for that.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 11:57am

I have no clue RG. It is just the way it has been in my circles of friends and family. Can't explain it any more than that. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 11:58am

Well, I'm one of those tacky losers who always flies commercial airlines, so when *I* travel by plane, I have to have a full body pat down.

lol. I usually do too but I have traveled on a private jet so I know there was a big difference. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 12:03pm

<<No, it is just not the kids parties but other things that involve the kids. Many have known each other since their kids were in daycare together or preschool. They are in the same sports, same religion classes, activities, etc. >>

Yes, same for me....so why would I need a kid party to be social with other parents?  That's what I don't understand about your logic, why do you think hanging out at a kid party makes your group more social?  It says to me (imo, no study involved) that one is less social.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 12:05pm

<<Why would you? We (at least me) were not talking about teenage (or even middle school) parties. I am only specificially speaking of younger kids parties. The ones at home, most likely, unless it is more a get together thing (our friends have a bday party for her son-the same age as mine) in the summer and they do a BBQ, crafts, games, etc. Most parents stay as we are all friends. The last party some parents left and then it was just down to a few families after that, that stayed later that night. >>

Why would I stay at a younger child's party?  That's what I never understood, I don't need the time to socialize and really...it's a party for kids,  not a social time for me.


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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 12:08pm

<<No, you never indicated anytime you were casually late for something. You were either early or on time for things that have a starting time that is (in your words) a "hard starting time". You never have situations that you could be a few minutes late?>>

Well because I had no idea what "casually late" meant and I never said I was early or on time for things....read the post, all the words, especially the first two.  My comments address your phrase of casually late, clearly when I say that unless there is a specific starting time (play, game, movie, etc) than I am on time for social engagements.  

Read the post, all the words.


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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 12:20pm
When I host I over-plan I think. Last party we had was a couple Summers ago, I invited everybody over around 3 and immediately offered drinks but I kind of take the cues from others when to light up the grill and pull out sides.

 

 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 12:26pm

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p>I'm curious. When you get a wedding invitation solely addressed to you and the Mister, do you bring the kids?</p><p>I don't. If the kids are not specifically invited, I do not bring them. Likewise, I wouldn't dream of bringing itty bitty along to the bday party of one of big brother's friends or bringing big bro along to one of itty bitty's friend's bday parties. B/c it is rude. And while I found the movie Wedding Crashers to be generally humorous, I wouldn't want to be one.</p><p>Using that generally accepted line of thinking (you can check out any edition of Emily Post's Etiquette if you don't believe me), isn't it also rude to stay at a bday party when just your kid was invitied? I'm yet to get an invitation addressed to both of us. And particularly when the bday party is held at a locale in which there is paid staff to help w/the kids--you're likely more of a PITA and in the way than actual help. Because do you know what's SUPER ANNOYING? Those people who are ostensibly there to help, but really just in the way and too busy socializing to actually help. Go socialize at Starbucks and let the kids have their party.</p>

No.  But I'll add a tacky invitation for your pleasure, DH's sister got married last December and she addressed the invitation:  His name - not Mr. and Mrs. - and family.  She addresses holiday cards this way too so it's no real surprise but tacky none the less, Lol. 

 

 

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