Are you on time? Are your kids?

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Are you on time? Are your kids?
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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 5:49pm

Do you arrive for work, doctor appointments, social events, etc on time?  What events (if any) warrant being early for?  Is there anything you purposely show up late for?  Explain. 

How about your kids? 

 


 


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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 4:34pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;pumpkinangel&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;&amp;amp;lt;&amp;lt;span&amp;gt;No one's mentioned bringing someone along to a party who wasn't invited.  And I commented that invitations are less formal than writing cards by hand, mailing them and waiting for a formal response. &amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span&amp;gt;Yes, actually that is what many of us have been talking about in this thread....parents staying when they weren't invited.&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;br /&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I haven't "seen" that here.  How can any parent stay if she's not invited?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I don't know what to tell you...that's what I've been writing about, parents who stay and weren't invited, it's called crashing.  ;)</p>

Are you saying it's a lone parent?  At a party with screaming children running thru a house or basketball court?

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 4:32pm

lauren1063 wrote:
  My experience has been that when a child has special needs, the parents welcome (in my case,demand) the presence of that child's parent, regardless of whether other parents are staying.  It takes a huge load off of their shoulders.  </p>

That's different.  We always invite the autism group to son's parties because his grade has had the pleasure of spending lots of time with the gang.  In K and 1st, they all combine for morning meetings to go over the date, weather, numbers, spelling, etc.  I've been in the classroom for some of those.  Great kids.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 4:28pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>  I'm not familiar with that site but wouldn't you have to be on it to know if someone is looking?  &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>No.  I'm not registered to LinkedIn, I don't work and I get requests from people.</p>

I get requests to join from people who have already joined but I don't get notifications that someone is looking at a profile of mine becuase as far as I know, one doesn't exsist.  How do you know someone is looking at a profile without a profile?

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 4:26pm

Congratulations!  That's like a marriage. ;)

20 years married here this year, cruise on our horizon :)

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 4:25pm

<<No, I didn't say I was unfamiliar with them. I said I have never attended one or had one that there were not hosts. That does not mean I don't know that they exist. >>

I didn't say that I was unfamiliar with any style birthday party and specficially said that my kids have had a variety of parties....so then why did you assume that not only was I not familiar with different types of parties you also assumed that my kids didn't attend many parties.  You also assumed that I didn't like to do things with my kids because I dropped off at birthday parties in elementary school, why is that?



PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 4:25pm

bordwithyou wrote:
I don't think they're going to kick you out of a bowling alley or a skating rink if you don't have an invitation.  As for the home parties, I have never had a problem with a parent wanting to stay, but I have been put in positions where the parent brings the kid and there's a sibling there, and the parent asks,  "I hate to put you on the spot, but Jimmy really likes (baseball, skating, horses), and I was wondering if he could stay, too."  I think it's terribly rude, but it would be ruder still for me to look at the six year old and say,  "No, there's no room."  We just set an extra plate, and I practice my "smiling while seething" trick.  As I said, I am quite glad to be done with all of that.</p>

Those situations happen and you did the right thing.  I hate to say it, but word gets around and women will talk and complain about the mom/dad who shows up with the other siblings. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 4:22pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
  I'm not familiar with that site but wouldn't you have to be on it to know if someone is looking?  </p>

No.  I'm not registered to LinkedIn, I don't work and I get requests from people.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 4:21pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;&lt;span&gt;No one's mentioned bringing someone along to a party who wasn't invited.  And I commented that invitations are less formal than writing cards by hand, mailing them and waiting for a formal response. &amp;gt;&amp;gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;Yes, actually that is what many of us have been talking about in this thread....parents staying when they weren't invited.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I haven't "seen" that here.  How can any parent stay if she's not invited?</p>

I don't know what to tell you...that's what I've been writing about, parents who stay and weren't invited, it's called crashing.  ;)

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 4:19pm

Yet, you were unfamiliar with the "party at an outside venue where there are no hired hosts included," which is actually kind of common here.

No, I didn't say I was unfamiliar with them. I said I have never attended one or had one that there were not hosts. That does not mean I don't know that they exist. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 4:18pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p>[quote=jamblessedthreeSnickers has said she stays for her child.  But a mother that stays to help and socialize is crashing, That kind of rude isn't welcome anyway.&lt;/p&gt;
</p><p>ReginaGeorge?  I don't know how I would feel about that if I was hosting and had not intended parents to stay.  Honestly.  It's manic enough to entertain a dozen or more kids in my house/yard.  We've had children with peanut allergies here as young as 5 and 6 for playdates/parties.  Moms have stayed home.  They usually have other kids to care for.</p>[/quote]

My experience has been that when a child has special needs, the parents welcome (in my case,demand) the presence of that child's parent, regardless of whether other parents are staying.  It takes a huge load off of their shoulders.  


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