Are you on time? Are your kids?

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Are you on time? Are your kids?
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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 5:49pm

Do you arrive for work, doctor appointments, social events, etc on time?  What events (if any) warrant being early for?  Is there anything you purposely show up late for?  Explain. 

How about your kids? 

 

 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:33pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;pumpkinangel&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt; That's quite a judgement, following etiquetter and being polite is now stuffy?  &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I doubt anyone would call Emily Post'sd rules timely.  Isn't she dead?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I guess social grace is dead for some, is that what you are saying?</p>

Social graces are not dead.  Things have changed since Emily Post.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:33pm

So since you used the comment that you were more social because you attended those parties, now you are not social?  I mean if that's your reason, you might want to follow it through...

More social then some, less social then others :)

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:34pm

<<Are you saying you need a formal (verbal or written) invitation beforehand to stay at a party?  My mother used to say that kind of thing ~ she wouldn't stay unless invited in advance.  If many of the other parents stay, sometimes that's as formal as it gets>>

Well not formal as in engraved, but an invitation (verbal or written) from the party hosts to stay if my name was not on the invite, yes.  Back when my kids were younger and I was handling their rsvps (are those not done anymore either) I would either exchange a phone call or email with the hosts and I knew/know all of the parents well. 


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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:36pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
Well not formal as in engraved, but an invitation (verbal or written) from the party hosts to stay if my name was not on the invite, yes.  Back when my kids were younger and I was handling their rsvps (are those not done anymore either) I would either exchange a phone call or email with the hosts and I knew/know all of the parents well. </span></p><p><span><br /></span></p>

RSVPs are still in (generally email).  Paper's out. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:38pm

Okay...one last time.  Read   the   first   two   words of my post.  Early or on time are not the only two options.  Read all the words, as written and we wouldn't need 15 posts to say simple things.

Not sure why this is continuing. You clearly stated you did not know what casually late meant. You also stated you are early or on time for everything and can't think of when it is ok to be late. Casually late is basically late as you are not there early or on time. Nothing much else to say. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:39pm

[quote=springfever2013]<p>Of course I like spending time with my child, what a silly assumption to make based on dropping off kids at birthday parties.  That is quite a judement there.  So based on your logic, now that you don't go to parties anymore that they are older, you don't like spending time with your kids anymore?  Yea, see how silly and rude that was?</p><p><strong>Nope, not silly at all. There are differences when they are younger and older and the things that they do and discover. I still enjoy spending time with my older kids and their friends. It is a different dynamic though and they would like their own personal space and again, the older they get, the parties are different and like I said before, the parties my teen goes to now are sleepovers.</strong></p>[/quote

You don't see how silly and rude your comment was about not staying at birthday parties = not wanting to spend time with one's child?  Wow.  I wonder why differences bother both you and Jam so much that you have to make judgemental and rude comments when there are differences?   

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:41pm

<<Social graces are not dead.  Things have changed since Emily Post.>>

Of course they have....but I still believe that invitation is to those invited, not whomever they wish to bring.  I wouldn't take my kids to a wedding if they weren't specifically invited as regina mentioned earlier and I wouldn't have my kid take me to a party if I wasn't specifically invited.  I think that is a basic social grace, do you disagree?


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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:41pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div> That's quite a judgement, following etiquetter and being polite is now stuffy?  &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I doubt anyone would call Emily Post'sd rules timely.  Isn't she dead?</p>

I didn't know that, Thanks for pointing that out. 

 

 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:41pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">So since you used the comment that you were more social because you attended those parties, now you are not social?  I mean if that's your reason, you might want to follow it through...</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:small; text-align:left">More social then some, less social then others :)</span></strong></p>

So then why use it as a basis to judge others who drop their kids off at parties?  

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:41pm

Social graces are not dead.  Things have changed since Emily Post.

EXACTLY. Just like I would not take my children to a wedding or event they were not invited to or a girl's night out where the invite is only to me (I always think of Simon from RHWONY when he insisted on going to a party of only the girls). A child's bday party, unless it is like an MTV Sweet Sixteen does not have the etiquette of Emily Post. lol

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