Are you on time? Are your kids?

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Are you on time? Are your kids?
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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 5:49pm

Do you arrive for work, doctor appointments, social events, etc on time?  What events (if any) warrant being early for?  Is there anything you purposely show up late for?  Explain. 

How about your kids? 

 


 


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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:50pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
It's also rude to call sticking around to help and socialize with other moms crashing a kids party, You missed that one. Double standard much?

If one attends a party where they are not invited, it is normally known as crashing a party.  Definitions of words are not rude.  There is no double standard, I leave those up to you.  :)

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:50pm

Of course they have....but I still believe that invitation is to those invited, not whomever they wish to bring.  I wouldn't take my kids to a wedding if they weren't specifically invited as regina mentioned earlier and I wouldn't have my kid take me to a party if I wasn't specifically invited.  I think that is a basic social grace, do you disagree?

Sigh...obviously in your circles of friends who don't attend any party their child attends. Remember, differences. I have NO problem with parents leaving, why do you have a problem with someone staying even though their names were not on the invite AND the hosts WANT to have them there?

What type of bday parties did your son's attend?

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:51pm

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;&lt;span&gt;Social graces are not dead.  Things have changed since Emily Post.&amp;gt;&amp;gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;Of course they have....but I still believe that invitation is to those invited, not whomever they wish to bring.  I wouldn't take my kids to a wedding if they weren't specifically invited as regina mentioned earlier and I wouldn't have my kid take me to a party if I wasn't specifically invited.  I think that is a basic social grace, do you disagree?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I suspect that's why they're ignoring the other, modern text, PKA. B/c they can't really argue w/that. So they'll point out that Emily Post is dead while ignoring that a modern day, internet bday site recommends including parents on the invitation if the presence of parents is desired.</p>

I mean this is not a complex process, one responds to the rsvp, there is small talk and the host can extend an offer to the parent or not for help.  

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:52pm

By that logic, ancient texts are completely irrelevant to modern day life. Are you dismissing the relevance of the Bible completely? Emily Post may be dead, but her legacy lives on through family members. And frankly, I think her wisdom is timeless. Pity more people don't agree...

Again, there is things that it applies to NOW and things that it doesn't. Some times things are not black and white. Kids parties, IME are that way. A wedding that only a couple is invited, YES. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:54pm

I've never heard the term "casually late" before.  Around here, I have heard people say "fashionably late", which IMO is really just a nice way of saying "rude".  Is that the same way?

Yes, fashionably late could be used too but again, it all depends on the situation. Yes, it could be rude if you are going to a dinner party but not a social gathering at a bar. 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:55pm

<<I don't find it silly or rude. I gave examples of WHY I would want to spend time with my child at a party. I like the experience of being there with them as well as they enjoy it too AND so does the other families. Not sure what the problem is. >>

Well that's great but you implied in your question to "me" that I didn't like to spend time with my child because I didn't stay at birthday parties.  It's interesting, first you are socializing with other parents, then you are helping parents and now you are watching your child have a wonderful time....except of course when you leave them at home and go to the bar/restaurant.  

Kids birthday parties in my world are more about the kids than what a parent can glean from the event.  I don't care, for the record, what you do at kids birthday parties, just stop your rude judgemental assumptions about my life.  thankyouverymuch cause it's always wrong.


PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:55pm

Because you are not reading my posts and continue to incorrectly summarize my comments.  That's why. :)

If you REALLY need to explain yourself, please do. It is ALL in black and white. Can't backpedal on this one :)

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:55pm

It's also rude to call sticking around to help and socialize with other moms crashing a kids party, You missed that one. Double standard much?

Exactly. 

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Registered: 03-27-2013
Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:57pm

DS still gets handwritten invitations.  I call the # on it to rsvp.  Don't tell me that's out now...  Please.  Lol. 

We still get them too. More of my elementary child though. High school, word of mouth. Dh and I, facebook invites.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 2:58pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">It's also rude to call sticking around to help and socialize with other moms crashing a kids party, You missed that one. Double standard much?</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Exactly. </span></span></strong></p>

It's not rude to call it that if that's what it is.  Sometimes it is.  In the situation you describe where it's the social norm for the parents to stick around, it obviously isn't.

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