Are you on time? Are your kids?

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Are you on time? Are your kids?
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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 5:49pm

Do you arrive for work, doctor appointments, social events, etc on time?  What events (if any) warrant being early for?  Is there anything you purposely show up late for?  Explain. 

How about your kids? 

 

 

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 3:57pm

<<Snickers has said she stays for her child.  But a mother that stays to help and socialize is crashing, That kind of rude isn't welcome anyway.>>

Who is snickers?  You misread, again....a parent who stays but is not invited to stay is crashing.  To purposely mislead and misconstrue someone's comments for their own purpose is pretty rude too.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 3:57pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I have thrown many different kinds of parties for my kids, from home parties to parties at different venues (for instance, a baseball training facility, a rock-climbing gym, the obligatory pool and skating parties, a party at a horseback riding facility, etc).   At some of the venues, such as, for instance, the rock-clmbing gym, they had a room for parties, but no one to "host" the food and presents part.   The hosts were out in the gym helping the kids climb, making sure they were using proper safety equipment, etc.  The parents and parents' helpers would have to decorate the room, set up the food, and clean up afterward.  I usually hired a couple of teens to help rather than ask my friends.</span></p><p><span style="font-size:small"><strong><span style="text-align:left">Oh ok, all the parties I have had out, as others with similiar ones as you have discribed, had hosts. Only the ones at home I had to decorate and run the entire party.</span></strong></span></p>

Now, see, this would be a perfect time for me to insert the kind of rude comment about limited experience that your threw at PKA for no good reason.   But what purpose would that serve?  We've all had plenty of experience at birthday parties, and it's clear they do them differently in different areas, and it's all good.  Except, of course, when it's not.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 3:56pm
jamblessedthree wrote:
Snickers drops in now and then like spice girl does, But they're not chums.

I'm sorry, I don't understand.  Can you explain, this time without rudeness, please?

Where do you see rudeness in this post? bawahhhaaaa......

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 3:54pm

Snickers drops in now and then like spice girl does, But they're not chums.

Not by spice girl's choice either. lol

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 3:54pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
Snickers drops in now and then like spice girl does, But they're not chums.

I'm sorry, I don't understand.  Can you explain, this time without rudeness, please?

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 3:54pm

bordwithyou wrote:
Nowadays when one refers to "according to Emily Post," it is in reference to the etiquette book, which is kept up to date and reissued from time to time by the Emily Post Institute, mostly grandchildren and great-grandchildren of the Grande Dame.  The last edition was in 2011.</p>

Why am I not surprised.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 3:54pm

bordwithyou wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">springfever2013</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;lt;&lt;strong&gt;What help? If the party is out, the parent of the child does NOT do anything. They have the people at that place do everything. Sounds as if you are not familiar with these type of parties.&amp;gt;&amp;gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:x-small"&gt;1.  Never stated the type of party.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:x-small"&gt;2.  Stop assuming.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:small"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Please explain then as you said you don't stay so how do you know how the party is run?&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Here is how it works, if your child is eight or so and under.  You go to the door, or walk the child into the venue.  You check with the adult in charge, and if the adult and child do not know each other, you make sure that the kid is introduced and knows who is in charge and who to contact if a problem arises.  You politely ask whether there is anything the host needs (sometimes there is some last minute thing) and verify pick up time.  You congratulate the birthday child, if the child is not on the skate floor, pony, in the pool, or otherwise occupied, and wave cheerily to junior, saying, "See you at three."  You go pick up your groceries, or go take your aerobics class at the gym, or meet your friend at Starbucks, and you show up at 10 minutes until three and make sure your child says all the proper thank yous, then you leave.   If something looks "off," you might stay a while longer to make sure the kid is safe and happy.  Otherwise, you leave.</p>

Exactly...

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 3:53pm

I have thrown many different kinds of parties for my kids, from home parties to parties at different venues (for instance, a baseball training facility, a rock-climbing gym, the obligatory pool and skating parties, a party at a horseback riding facility, etc).   At some of the venues, such as, for instance, the rock-clmbing gym, they had a room for parties, but no one to "host" the food and presents part.   The hosts were out in the gym helping the kids climb, making sure they were using proper safety equipment, etc.  The parents and parents' helpers would have to decorate the room, set up the food, and clean up afterward.  I usually hired a couple of teens to help rather than ask my friends.

Oh ok, all the parties I have had out, as others with similiar ones as you have discribed, had hosts. Only the ones at home I had to decorate and run the entire party.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 3:51pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Well, it's all there if you want to read it.  :)</span></p><p><span style="font-size:small"><strong><span style="text-align:left">I did and I know what I read. Thanks, it is understood that since you didn't even know the definition of the word (and assumptions were made that Jam and I made up the term-bawhhhaaa) that you don't do it. Again, that is ok as you might not have ever had the opportunity. </span></strong></span></p>

Well no, that is not what my comments stated either.  

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 3:51pm

I wouldn't stay at a drop off unless the host invites me to stay, whether in advance or on the spot. :)

I agree if it was established it was a drop off party. The ones I am speaking of are not. Many have been though.

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