Are you on time? Are your kids?

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Are you on time? Are your kids?
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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 5:49pm

Do you arrive for work, doctor appointments, social events, etc on time?  What events (if any) warrant being early for?  Is there anything you purposely show up late for?  Explain. 

How about your kids? 

 


 


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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:56am

reginageorge2005 wrote:
  I was born self-deprecating. Like I said, I am who I am. And I'm totally comfortable with it. </p>

Regina, your comments here on this message board allow me to comfortably say, you are the furthest thing from self-deprecating.  That word may be something to look up.  Check the antonyms first.  This is actually a compliment from me to you.  I don't think women should be self-deprecating.  There's a happy medium. 

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:55am

bordwithyou wrote:
I've had the pleasure of sitting next to Gina's daughter for a couple of hours at dinner. You want that child at parties. She's a pistol.

Apparently I shouldn't have had her out of the bubble for sushi, Bord...Surprised

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:53am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">BeaArthurisMyReligion</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;" I also don't think women especially, should have to be self-deprecating to be funny.  It perpetuates a stereotype I'm not comfortable with."  I actually agree with you on this... years ago I made a crack about my size during the leadership program I was going through and one of my classmates turned to me and said "why do you do that? would you ever let anyone else say those things about you? why say them about yourself?"  and I replied that I had learned early to say them first (sort of like "Fat Amy" in Pitch perfect..) before others could say them about me and she looked at me sternly and said "that's not being very kind to yourself... I don't like that"  and she really gave me pause... I've tried to curb that impulse as I've gotten older but I do fall into that old habit from timeto time &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I agree with you and thardy.  Its cute to laugh at oneself now and then and I think it passes as an ice breaker too but I think there's a point where it can come off as odd and insensitive - even ifthe joke is only on you. </p>

Fat Amy had ALL the best lines. She was the best part of Pitch Perfect...

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:52am
I've had the pleasure of sitting next to Gina's daughter for a couple of hours at dinner. You want that child at parties. She's a pistol.
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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:51am

BeaArthurisMyReligion wrote:
<p>" I also don't think women especially, should have to be self-deprecating to be funny.  It perpetuates a stereotype I'm not comfortable with."  I actually agree with you on this... years ago I made a crack about my size during the leadership program I was going through and one of my classmates turned to me and said "why do you do that? would you ever let anyone else say those things about you? why say them about yourself?"  and I replied that I had learned early to say them first (sort of like "Fat Amy" in Pitch perfect..) before others could say them about me and she looked at me sternly and said "that's not being very kind to yourself... I don't like that"  and she really gave me pause... I've tried to curb that impulse as I've gotten older but I do fall into that old habit from timeto time </p>

I'm glad you can curb that habit.  Of course, we all make such comments from time to time.  But you don't want to allow the mean women to *agree* and cut you down.  The mean ones are not all in mid-norther new engl.  That's a great rule of thumb your classmate gave you.

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:49am

BeaArthurisMyReligion wrote:
<p>" I also don't think women especially, should have to be self-deprecating to be funny.  It perpetuates a stereotype I'm not comfortable with."  I actually agree with you on this... years ago I made a crack about my size during the leadership program I was going through and one of my classmates turned to me and said "why do you do that? would you ever let anyone else say those things about you? why say them about yourself?"  and I replied that I had learned early to say them first (sort of like "Fat Amy" in Pitch perfect..) before others could say them about me and she looked at me sternly and said "that's not being very kind to yourself... I don't like that"  and she really gave me pause... I've tried to curb that impulse as I've gotten older but I do fall into that old habit from timeto time </p>

I agree with you and thardy.  Its cute to laugh at oneself now and then and I think it passes as an ice breaker too but I think there's a point where it can come off as odd and insensitive - even if the joke is only on you. 

 


 


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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:44am
It should also be noted at this juncture that "shaggable" and "conventionally pretty (or even beautiful)" are two very different things. Plenty of gorgeous people with "eh!" sex appeal and vice-versa.
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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:44am

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p>&lt;&lt;<span>And especially now that you've increased her allergies from tree nuts to everything under the sun, yes, I would keep that child </span><strong>at her age</strong><span> home from parties.  It's delinquent not to.&gt;&gt;</span></p><p><span>First, those are the same allergies that were mentioned in the previous discussion where multiple posters were loling at life threatening allergies and second it's not delinquent to allow a child to go to a party where she is carefully monitored by a parent.  What is delinquent is the attitude on this board about life threatening allergies.</span></p><p><span><br /></span></p>

Thank you. And AMEN!  I really hope there is a contrarian attitude about it on the board simply b/c they don't like me and are trying to poke my so-called achilles heel and that no one actually feels that way about kids w/FA IRL.

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:44am

PKA I said to her the other day "I hope you realize what a good PR agent I am for you.."  ;-)

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:42am

BeaArthurisMyReligion wrote:
<p>Ah it was all in the delivery... and no that night she made me laugh harder and blush harder than ever before.. I had such low self estemm at that point in my life.. and the night she stuck out her hand to shake mine was the moment that changed my life... when she told me that it was after the dinner event when we were getting ice cream with the rest of the women who had attended and she was just joking around with me and I said I'd never heard that expression before and she explained it and I turned 9 million shades of red... I didn't start dating her that night.. I made her woo me for a good five months LOL.. I'd never been woo-ed before.. it was pretty intoxicating..  (and I'm joking of course I didnt' "make" her do anything... I was just being very very cautious with my very fragile little heart at that tie in my life) ... but in September we will mark the 10th anniversary of that fateful night we met and I can't believe how time has flown .. that woman makes me smile and laugh every single day..</p>

Wow....10 years, congrats to both of you...early!  She makes me laugh all the time through your stories.

PumpkinAngel

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