Are you on time? Are your kids?

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Are you on time? Are your kids?
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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 5:49pm

Do you arrive for work, doctor appointments, social events, etc on time?  What events (if any) warrant being early for?  Is there anything you purposely show up late for?  Explain. 

How about your kids? 

 

 

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:42am

BeaArthurisMyReligion wrote:
<p>Ah it was all in the delivery... and no that night she made me laugh harder and blush harder than ever before.. I had such low self estemm at that point in my life.. and the night she stuck out her hand to shake mine was the moment that changed my life... when she told me that it was after the dinner event when we were getting ice cream with the rest of the women who had attended and she was just joking around with me and I said I'd never heard that expression before and she explained it and I turned 9 million shades of red... I didn't start dating her that night.. I made her woo me for a good five months LOL.. I'd never been woo-ed before.. it was pretty intoxicating..  (and I'm joking of course I didnt' "make" her do anything... I was just being very very cautious with my very fragile little heart at that tie in my life) ... but in September we will mark the 10th anniversary of that fateful night we met and I can't believe how time has flown .. that woman makes me smile and laugh every single day..</p>

I'm not ever insulted when I'm called that--I actually heard the phrase again last weekend while out in a college town w/youngins. Whatever. I'm almost 40. If a kid half my age calls me that, I take it as a compliment. It's not like anyone but my husband is actually get any action from me. 

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:40am
"the night I met my wife she told me I was a MILF.." ------- Ha! See?
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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:37am

<<And especially now that you've increased her allergies from tree nuts to everything under the sun, yes, I would keep that child at her age home from parties.  It's delinquent not to.>>

First, those are the same allergies that were mentioned in the previous discussion where multiple posters were loling at life threatening allergies and second it's not delinquent to allow a child to go to a party where she is carefully monitored by a parent.  What is delinquent is the attitude on this board about life threatening allergies.


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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:33am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">reginageorge2005</em> wrote:</div>  IME, being thin didn't help. Being the only mom in a bikini at the pool did not win me any friends. Well, at least not any mom friends. The dads were plenty friendly...&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I am not the sort of person who "blends in." And I don't try. What I lack in stature, I make up for in personality. I have a BIG personality. Like Bea, I have a reputation for being "funny" both because I'm incredibly self-depricating and because I tend to say outloud what everyone else is thinking. I also don't care if people like me or not. I am comfortable with who I am. And any mother who resents me for trying to keep my kid safe at a bday party is NOT someone I want to be "friends" with anyway. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;RE: the Linked In pic--it's a pretty picture. And while I love Bea more than she knows for her kind words, I am not photogenic at all. So when I take a pic in which I think I look good, it's a MILF pic. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I'm always surprised by the moms with 4 (or more) kids sporting bikinis at the pool.  But it's just a fact of life here.  And I'm glad here at least, that the dads stay away.   They can look, but not approach a married woman in a bikini to hit on her.  That's just gross.  Lots of sahms in a town means they have time to obsess about exercise and with that comes diet.  A "big personality" is a great thing.  I also don't think women especially, should have to be self-deprecating to be funny.  It perpetuates a stereotype I'm not comfortable with.</p><p>A LinkedIn picture should be a pretty (or handsome) one.  I just don't see that being evocative of MILF.</p>

I was born self-deprecating. Like I said, I am who I am. And I'm totally comfortable with it. 

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:33am

Ah it was all in the delivery... and no that night she made me laugh harder and blush harder than ever before.. I had such low self estemm at that point in my life.. and the night she stuck out her hand to shake mine was the moment that changed my life... when she told me that it was after the dinner event when we were getting ice cream with the rest of the women who had attended and she was just joking around with me and I said I'd never heard that expression before and she explained it and I turned 9 million shades of red... I didn't start dating her that night.. I made her woo me for a good five months LOL.. I'd never been woo-ed before.. it was pretty intoxicating..  (and I'm joking of course I didnt' "make" her do anything... I was just being very very cautious with my very fragile little heart at that tie in my life) ... but in September we will mark the 10th anniversary of that fateful night we met and I can't believe how time has flown .. that woman makes me smile and laugh every single day..

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:28am

" I also don't think women especially, should have to be self-deprecating to be funny.  It perpetuates a stereotype I'm not comfortable with."  I actually agree with you on this... years ago I made a crack about my size during the leadership program I was going through and one of my classmates turned to me and said "why do you do that? would you ever let anyone else say those things about you? why say them about yourself?"  and I replied that I had learned early to say them first (sort of like "Fat Amy" in Pitch perfect..) before others could say them about me and she looked at me sternly and said "that's not being very kind to yourself... I don't like that"  and she really gave me pause... I've tried to curb that impulse as I've gotten older but I do fall into that old habit from timeto time

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:27am

BeaArthurisMyReligion wrote:
<p>the night I met my wife she told me I was a MILF.. I had never even heard the term before.  Lord almight I blushed and blushed and blushed!</p>

Ick.  Sounds like the heterosexual dating scene.  I hope you threw your drink in her face.

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:26am

reginageorge2005 wrote:
  IME, being thin didn't help. Being the only mom in a bikini at the pool did not win me any friends. Well, at least not any mom friends. The dads were plenty friendly...</p><p>I am not the sort of person who "blends in." And I don't try. What I lack in stature, I make up for in personality. I have a BIG personality. Like Bea, I have a reputation for being "funny" both because I'm incredibly self-depricating and because I tend to say outloud what everyone else is thinking. I also don't care if people like me or not. I am comfortable with who I am. And any mother who resents me for trying to keep my kid safe at a bday party is NOT someone I want to be "friends" with anyway. </p><p>RE: the Linked In pic--it's a pretty picture. And while I love Bea more than she knows for her kind words, I am not photogenic at all. So when I take a pic in which I think I look good, it's a MILF pic. </p>

I'm always surprised by the moms with 4 (or more) kids sporting bikinis at the pool.  But it's just a fact of life here.  And I'm glad here at least, that the dads stay away.   They can look, but not approach a married woman in a bikini to hit on her.  That's just gross.  Lots of sahms in a town means they have time to obsess about exercise and with that comes diet.  A "big personality" is a great thing.  I also don't think women especially, should have to be self-deprecating to be funny.  It perpetuates a stereotype I'm not comfortable with.

A LinkedIn picture should be a pretty (or handsome) one.  I just don't see that being evocative of MILF.

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:22am

the night I met my wife she told me I was a MILF.. I had never even heard the term before.  Lord almight I blushed and blushed and blushed!

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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:20am

rollmops2009 wrote:
"I wonder sometims if i was conventionally attractive if I'd be so willing to stand out in a crowd or if I"d be grateful for the automatic acceptance that seems to be afforded the beautiful.." ----------- FWIW, I think you are pretty and attractive. I do realize that you are not petite, lol, nor that perky soccer-mom "cute," but that is a highly overrated look. As for the beautiful, I have one friend who was always fawned and drooled over everywhere she went. She also seems to be ageless, so it hasn't really changed much with the years. From what I can see, she is no happier than the rest of us mere mortals. She IS married to a rock star of sorts, but there can be some downside to that and in the end he is just a guy, for better and worse.

ITA. Bea--you totally remind me of that Dove commerical in that you just don't "see" how beautiful you are. I wish you saw yourself how the rest of us see you.

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