Are you on time? Are your kids?

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Are you on time? Are your kids?
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Mon, 04-22-2013 - 5:49pm

Do you arrive for work, doctor appointments, social events, etc on time?  What events (if any) warrant being early for?  Is there anything you purposely show up late for?  Explain. 

How about your kids? 

 


 


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Registered: 02-20-2013
Wed, 04-24-2013 - 9:11am

' it's better not to stand out if you don't have to"

that was one rule I was never able to figure out... even trying not to stand out I stand out b/c of my freakish height... things are uch easier now that the girl is older though.. the parents all seem like they've relaxed alot... I know I have.. or at least I've tried to..

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Registered: 09-01-2002
Wed, 04-24-2013 - 9:07am

reginageorge2005 wrote:
<p>I stay b/c my kid has life threatening allergies and your average mom running a bday party for 20 preschoolers doesn't really want to be responsible for managing itty bitty's health condition. Generally speaking, when I call to RSVP, I mention that she'll bring her own cupcake and ask if they're comfortable w/the epi pen administration or would they like for me to stay. FTF for her bday party last year--the invitations were addressed to her friends, their invited siblings &amp; their mothers. So that it was clear that they were all invited.</p>

I'm glad you give them the option.  Earlier, it sounded like you were staying with your daughter even if no other parents were there.  Really, I've learned one thing from being a sahm among conservative sahms these years ~ it's better not to stand out if you don't have to.  There would be gossip and complaints if the mom hosting the party was not one of your besties.  That's here.  Hopefully you live among less uptight busybodies who never gossip. ;)

And if I had 20+ kids running around and 1 mom, I'd be put out.  I'd feel I have to entertain you, chat, feed you.  Also, I'd be kind of insulted as my house is very clean.  We've had many children here with peanut allergies and no one has had a problem.

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 04-24-2013 - 7:22am
Because crashing in means storming in... Uninvited.

 


 


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Wed, 04-24-2013 - 7:21am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">lauren1063</em> wrote:</div>  My experience has been that when a child has special needs, the parents welcome (in my case,demand) the presence of that child's parent, regardless of whether other parents are staying.  It takes a huge load off of their shoulders.  &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>That's different.  We always invite the autism group to son's parties because his grade has had the pleasure of spending lots of time with the gang.  In K and 1st, they all combine for morning meetings to go over the date, weather, numbers, spelling, etc.  I've been in the classroom for some of those.  Great kids.</p>

That is too neat. 

 


 


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Registered: 02-20-2013
Tue, 04-23-2013 - 11:52pm

lauren1063 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;lauren1063&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;  My experience has been that when a child has special needs, the parents welcome (in my case,demand) the presence of that child's parent, regardless of whether other parents are staying.  It takes a huge load off of their shoulders.  &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;That's different.  We always invite the autism group to son's parties because his grade has had the pleasure of spending lots of time with the gang.  In K and 1st, they all combine for morning meetings to go over the date, weather, numbers, spelling, etc.  I've been in the classroom for some of those.  Great kids.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>But how does my child supposedly needing a parent along (he really didn't...although I did serve as a handy means of escape) differ from Regina George's child needing a parent along to deal with potential medical crises?  Wouldn't it be preferable to have a parent along in the event that the child needed emergency attention?</p>

Legally it doesn't. The life threatening allergies are legally classified as a disability which places her under the "special needs" umbrella, complete w/a 504 plan. But since it's me and my kid, they have to argue the point...;)

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 11:49pm

lauren1063 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-2 even"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;[quote=jamblessedthreeSnickers has said she stays for her child.  But a mother that stays to help and socialize is crashing, That kind of rude isn't welcome anyway.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;</blockquote>&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;ReginaGeorge?  I don't know how I would feel about that if I was hosting and had not intended parents to stay.  Honestly.  It's manic enough to entertain a dozen or more kids in my house/yard.  We've had children with peanut allergies here as young as 5 and 6 for playdates/parties.  Moms have stayed home.  They usually have other kids to care for.&lt;/p&gt;
</p><p>My experience has been that when a child has special needs, the parents welcome (in my case,demand) the presence of that child's parent, regardless of whether other parents are staying.  It takes a huge load off of their shoulders.  </p>[/quote]

Lauren--that has absolutely been my experience. No parent wants my kid to go into anaphylaxis on their watch. They're always quite relieved when I explain that they don't have to accomodate her since she brings her own bday treat and ask if they want me to stay. 

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 11:35pm

I stay b/c my kid has life threatening allergies and your average mom running a bday party for 20 preschoolers doesn't really want to be responsible for managing itty bitty's health condition. Generally speaking, when I call to RSVP, I mention that she'll bring her own cupcake and ask if they're comfortable w/the epi pen administration or would they like for me to stay. FTF for her bday party last year--the invitations were addressed to her friends, their invited siblings & their mothers. So that it was clear that they were all invited.

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 11:28pm

DD gets all paper invites. DS gets a mix of electronic & paper. But paper invites are still quite common around here. For DS's sleepover, I called parents and extended the invitations that way. For DD's party, I'll do paper invites.

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 04-23-2013 - 5:09pm

<<Not that I really care, you did say you would "love" to know what kind of party was held outside the home where parents might need help.  That implied you had no idea that there were parties where indeed, it would be held at an outside venue with no host included.

If you don't care, then why ask? I already stated in my 15 years of being a parent, I am well aware of all different types of parties.>>

Why ask, even going as far as saying that you would "love" to know, if you already knew?

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 5:05pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">lauren1063</em> wrote:</div>  My experience has been that when a child has special needs, the parents welcome (in my case,demand) the presence of that child's parent, regardless of whether other parents are staying.  It takes a huge load off of their shoulders.  &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>That's different.  We always invite the autism group to son's parties because his grade has had the pleasure of spending lots of time with the gang.  In K and 1st, they all combine for morning meetings to go over the date, weather, numbers, spelling, etc.  I've been in the classroom for some of those.  Great kids.</p>

But how does my child supposedly needing a parent along (he really didn't...although I did serve as a handy means of escape) differ from Regina George's child needing a parent along to deal with potential medical crises?  Wouldn't it be preferable to have a parent along in the event that the child needed emergency attention?


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