Article that relates back to our helicopter parenting thread ...

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Article that relates back to our helicopter parenting thread ...
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Thu, 03-07-2013 - 6:58pm

http://www.cnn.com/2011/09/06/living/teachers-want-to-tell-parents/index.html

It's a principal's story of why she's leaving the profession - the parents.  The excuse-making, helicopter parents.

 

Thoughts?

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 DD is in her 5th year of full time teaching.  She would absolutly love her job if all the had to do was teach.  Dealing with parents and school administation is a different matter.

The parents that make her job hard are those at both end of the spectrum,  those too involved and those not involved at all.

In her first year a mother called her everytime her DD got a grade less than an A.  Why did my DD get a B?  Um, because, she did B work. 

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A teacher friend posted this pie chart pic once on facebook..  a small % of a teacher's job is actual teaching, the rest is a combination of dealing with behavior/social needs and whiney parents...  My bet is that's pretty accurate.  

 


 


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Further, Principals get bad raps. DD's high school principal got demoted earlier this year b/c of a fight that broke out on her watch, There has always been a vendetta against that woman to get her fired - and that pack includes both teachers and parents. I have never had aproblem with her and she was the middle school principal before the hs principal. Principals have to deal with so much and they have to develop thick skins for it too, The principals I know always have their teachers back and stand behind them 100%.

 


 


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I can't respond objectively this week.  A friend of mine's daughter was physically assaulted in class with a teacher present and the teacher's response was to brainstorm with the friend's daughter to come up with ways for her to avoid being assaulted in the future. (caveat, friend lives in the UK, so the situations aren't really comparable).

However, I will address one thing that struck me in the letter.  The teacher asks that we always believe her implicitly when she tells us a child has done something, but if the child tells us something the teacher has done, we are to call the teacher and ask for the other side of the story.  Apparently, there's only two sides to a story if the teacher isn't telling it.

But again, I'm not really in a good mental place to be answering this objectively today.

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My kids come home with all kinds of stories and I rarely take sides. DD1 has a teacher she can't stand.. Mom, I give her my paper and she just GRABS it from my hand! She is always in a bad mood! Blah blah..... If there's a life lesson there it's that not everybody is out there to be your friend and that she's going to encounter nice and mean ppl her whole life, I think she took away from that keeping her distance from the woman and just worrying about her own job. The article points to parents making excuses for their kids and I think it's spot on in what life lessons that doesn't teach kids later.