Bad habits!

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Bad habits!
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 8:12am
Does your dh have some bad habits that you've let slide through the years but now feel the need to correct because of the impressionable children in the house? What about yourself?

I know I have to watch my mouth...not that I swear a ton, I just tend to use nicknames and maybe questionable slang. Dh, on the other hand, has recently developed this habit of eating like a prisoner! He'll hunch over his plate and shovel all the food in his mouth holding the fork in his hand like a club. It's appalling. He just says that he's "in a rush". Yuck!

Oh, and he uses the word "ain't" sometimes....something I know he doesn't do in front of customers, but he gets lazy at home, I think.

How do you approach these issues in your house? What are expectations?

meldi

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Registered: 08-12-2003
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:45pm
When DS1 was about 3, he helpfully volunteered to his dcp that "Momma uses bad words."

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:29pm
Poor table manners really bother me. Whats worse is my dh *thinks* he has these impeccable manners, but its really like a family joke because he just DOESNT. He either sits up very properly and takes these bizarre little bites of food, or shovels it in and then starts talking to me with food falling out of his mouth! I have had to look away sometimes! Once we were out to lunch at a restaurant and he spit a piece of gristle ON THE PLATE. I told him if he EVER did that again I'd refuse to eat with him. I actually had to explain to him that we spit nasty things into the NAPKIN!!! A lot of it is just ignorance-he was raised this way. I try hard not to correct him in front of the kids, but have told him that if he expects them to use manners at the table, he needs to lead by example....

The other thing is swearing. Dh likes to use the F bomb a lot. I prefer d@mmit. We are both working on watching our mouths. Dd (13) finds it offensive, and ds (5) could pick up on it way too easy (even though he knows what *Bad words* are).

dj

Dj

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Registered: 10-23-2001
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:36pm

Oh Meldi..You beat me to this Thought!


Yes Yes Yes, DH has a horrible habit of playing with his pant leg or his shoe while talking.

 

 

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Registered: 09-15-2003
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 2:03pm
Is he jiggling at the same time? I used to go to school with a guy who would do that...jiggling the whole table!

Just made me think of something else. Not to pile on the poor DH (but I am) he'll pace the whole house while on the phone, walking into every room, talking at the top of his lungs, even when the baby's sleeping. He's a loud talker anyway.

So nice to be without fault, isn't it? :)

Meldi

ps: I wonder what I do that bugs him. He NEVER says anything to me about any of my habits. Other than, I say "anyway" rather than "anyways". I was taught that my way is the right way, but he corrects me all the time.


Meldi
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Registered: 12-29-1999
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 2:52pm
Your way is the correct way!

Hmmm, let's see: DH eats pistachios in bed and that drives me nuts! He also drops all the crap from his pockets on the kitchen counter and I HATE THAT. And when he starts taking off clothes in the kitchen and hangs his clothes on the back of the chair? What is that? Take your clothes off upstairs and put them in the hamper or on a hanger! The magic clothes fairy isn't going to put them away for you!

Grrrrr...can you tell AF is here and I'm grouchy?

C

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 5:59pm
Sigh, where do i begin. Can you say, fell in love at 16 because he was cute and i had to have him????? i had no clue what to look for in someone, however, with that said, he has qualities i would never compromise if i were to marry again, ie: honesty, responsible, dependable, and damn good looking!! oh, well, the damn good looking might not be so important....LOL.

he does not have good table manners, but comes by it naturally. his whole family has no good table manners. GROSS!!! with that said, it was very hard to get the kids to follow manners when dh doesnt, but i would tell them, he is not my child, they are and it is very important they use good manners. out of my three children, my youngest is the most polite, well mannered and considerate gentleman. i am so proud of him.

my dh says "aint" as well, and it sends me over the edge. i *hate* that word.

my mouth is worse than dh's so i cant say anything about his. i never really used foul language until i had a 16yo son! gggggrrrrrrrrrrrrr!! i "swore" i would never say bad words in front of my kids.

dh doesnt use plz and thank you often. I hate that too. it doesnt take much to be kind to others.

that is enough. im going to stay with him though because right now, he is at the grocery store, and when he gets back will carry them all into the house, and unload them without asking me, so i love that man!!! and i *will* thank him...LOL

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 6:23pm
You know what? I know this is going to sound polly-anna-ish, but I can't think of a bad habit DH has (besides ruffling the sheets). He has great table manners, he's neat, he does housework, he has a great job, he speaks intelligently. I know, I know, he sounds like he's perfect, but he's *NOT* (neither am I and we recognize that in ourselves). But I really can't think, off the top of my head, one thing that "grates on me" so to speak. I'm sure Beth Ann will come up with something that she's noticed, though. LOL!
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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 6:25pm
My DH doesn't swear, but I do. I use God dammit or just dammit often. To the point that when one of our boys was little I heard G!D! come out of his cute little mouth. DH was not happy about that.
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Registered: 12-29-1999
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 6:55pm
Oooooh, two more: he thinks the toilet paper fairy replaces the toilet paper (or has just figured out that since he's done his sitting for the day, I'll replace the roll before he needs it again), and is incapable of changing a dirty diaper w/o help and yelling at DS for squirming (he's two!). ARGH!

C

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Registered: 03-18-2004
In reply to: meldi
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 7:48pm
I'm guilty of the toilet paper thing; I just don't mind reaching in the cabinet for it and that dern thingy always slips out of my hands! LOL.

Mondo

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