We've done a variety of things throughout the years.
For dd13's party we told her she could invite four friends, two from church, and two from school.
So so true about people showing up who did not rsvp...happens a lot and sometimes they bring their siblings with.
We don't have any "normal" or "standard".
Agreed~ the appt. would remain scheduled...
football moms are everywhere right now and i hear all the babble about this and that and how much we do for this and that...after listening to some of these b'day parties < of course keeping my opinions to myself> for their kids i began to wonder?