Calling all teachers and anyone

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Calling all teachers and anyone
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 2:50pm
else who cares to comment.

If a teacher tells a parent that her child should be tested for "impulsivity," is that code for "I think your child has ADHD but I can't tell you that directly because you might sue me"?

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 3:28pm
It might be. But how old is your kid? Frankly, any toddler who DIDN'T score high on "imulsivity" would be somebody to worry about!
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 3:34pm
It's not my son, it's the son of a really close friend who's a Sept. 99 baby. The issues are that apparently he is the only one of the 12 children in his class who can't sit through all of circle time and doesn't understand how to join in with a group of children who are playing already. Her comment to my friend was that he should be able to do those things by the end of the first year of preschool, and he's with children whose birthdays are July - Dec 99.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 3:52pm
OK, so he's 3 1/2? And he can't sit through circle time and has some social issues? It could be a lot of things, from plain immaturity, to a teacher with bad ideas about normal chiild development, to an undiagosed hearing problem to ADHD or "worse." What's your friend's "gut feeling" about her kid? Parents who also have some understanding normal child development usually have pretty good gut instincts about their child.
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 3:58pm
The complications are that his older sister (9) has just been diagnosed with some "visual perception" problems (?) that make it very difficult to learn math and also hurt her reading. So my friend is super sensitive about any suggestions that her other child at only 3.5 might also have problems. Also, her dd was a quiet, girly-girl and her son is not only all boy, he has been wild from the very beginning. She thinks that's normal for boys. I do think it's partially an immaturity issue, but he also has speech and anger management issues (will stay up hours beyond his bedtime screaming if my friend doesn't give in and give him a third glass of milk). She has also avoided potty training him because she's "too tired" to put up with the hassle (!)

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 4:09pm
Well, with the additional information -- speech and anger management issues, then yes, I would think it's time for an evaluation. If the child can't be understood by other kids, then they'll tend to avoid him and shut him out of their groups, and that can't be helping the anger issues. Just sounds like an overall situation where good counseling and evaluation could help. Sounds like the entire house is a bit chaotic right now and it would be difficult to get an accurate ADHD diagnosis. I tend to be suspicious about the ADHD label on a child under 5 because there is just too much variation in individual development and because ALL children under 5 display behaviors that are associated with ADHD later in life (I have an 11 y/o with ADHD).
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 4:21pm
I guess what bugs me is that my friend is a fourth grade teacher herself!! So she called Child Find and they told her they don't test for ADHD until age 5, and that's that. I guess it's none of my business, but if I were the mother in question I would take the teacher's nudge not as an insult but as an opportunity for an evaluation. But she doesn't want to hear anything negative.

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Registered: 05-13-2003
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 4:48pm
No, I think it's code for "your child is bugging me with and I'd love it if you could get him on some medication to calm him down and make my life easier". And I say he because said child is almost always a he.
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 5:06pm
Well, the kid is getting out of the teacher's class in two weeks. So why would she care if he gets medication or not?

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 6:06pm
No-but impulsivity can be a sign of ADHD. It can also be a sign of giftedness. As a parent I would want to know whether my child suffered from a learning disability. I would want the teacher's input. In fact, this school year I had my middle son tested for ADHD because he was so hyper in his classroom. It turns out he is gifted. But I am glad I know.

Jenna

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 6:40pm
Is there a test out there that can tell you if you child has impulsivity?? If not I would say she's going the ADHD route... but I'm not a teacher so I'm not sure...

L.

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