Carseat help please

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Carseat help please
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Thu, 06-10-2004 - 7:38am
Hi everyone,

Dd is almost 15 months and it's getting to the point that we can't take her anywhere if the drive is too long (45 mins seems to be the limit) ...at that point she just starts having a meltdown. If we get stuck in traffic or something we are screwed. We feed her, give her drinks, toys, books, whatever. Is it just a phase or is there a trick to make it easier? A lot of activites are an hour away (family) and this summer is shaping up to be a busy one.

Also, she freaks out around dogs. Takes her a good 20 mins to relax, but then if she is walking around and the dog comes by, she freaks again. We tell her, "it's okay" and show her how to pet the dog and can get her to relax, but if the dog surprises her again, it's a meltdown. Everyone has a dog (but us!) it seems. Any ideas on handling the dog situation?

It *really* annoys me when she freaks out all the time. And with new baby coming, I'm trying to get some of these personality quirks under control. Be honest...am I expecting too much?

Meldi

Meldi
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: meldi
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 9:12am

I'll probably get blasted for this, but...


A portable DVD player works wonders in the car.

 

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Registered: 01-29-2004
In reply to: meldi
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 9:51am
It's just a phase! It's a long one, but it will end. You've probably tried the obvious: children's songs CDs, scheduling drives near nap times or meal times (and feed her in the car), remove the Winnie the Pooh sunscreen from the window so she can see out. I imagine she's forward-facing? That always made the difference with us. My DD often had a "meltdown" in the car right before she'd fall asleep - could that be it? I learned to wait a few more minutes before trying to soothe her with words or songs - by that time, she'd fall asleep. Online for about $600 you can buy a DVD player for the car which straps around a front seat.
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Registered: 09-15-2003
In reply to: meldi
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 10:33am
Thanks. She's in a big "not falling asleep, not now, not ever, evil mommy" phase right now. And if she sleeps in the car and it's near bed time, it's worse. Takes away all of her "sleep-steam", if you will, then she's up for 2 + hours when we get home.

She's facing forward (and started to early, because she was flipping out at 9 months EVERYTIME we drove) and her shade is gone. We might resort to the dvd player (but I know that dh will hate that idea!). Sure, we didn't have one growing up, but we were allowed to roll all over the back seat, lol!

Meldi
Meldi
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Registered: 11-17-2003
In reply to: meldi
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 7:14pm
Try the DVD player for when she starts getting out of control. I know my daughter who turned 2 in April cannot tolerate being in the car for more than 1 hour tops. I don't think it is fair to expect her to stay still and quiet for that long. She is still a baby. We miss out on a lot of things simply because I would rather her be happy at home or close by then to fight her on this one thing. I try picking my battles. If you absolutely have to get in that car and go I say get the DVD player. Good luck!! Is her carseat comfortable?

Trish :)

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Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: meldi
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 8:17pm

This is going to sound like a silly question, but here goes:

Virgo