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Sun, 11-10-2013 - 6:53am

People that wake up everyday to sunshine regardless of the actual weather, whose lives look peachy perfect b/c of their demeanor, whose energies and smiles motivate you or make you want to strangle them... 

Or do you? 

 

 

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 9:56am

falllflowers wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You don't know anyone who wanted to go to work on a day and couldn't?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Not usually lololol.</span></strong></p>

Well then, I'm sorry that you have limited experiences which don't include people enjoying their work.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 9:57am

Who works to sock it all away? 

Bord's dh lololol

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:02am
"Who works to sock it all away? Bord's dh lololol" Wrong again. If we want something or need something, we spend the money on it. We went on a 3 week 6,000 mile vacation last year just because. He gave his sister a trip to Paris for her birthday.
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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:02am

<<She has had a choice of a few times of classes. She chose one and it has worked for her for a long time.>>

Yes, she worked around a schedule and found one that suited her, that's what I said.

<<She travels whenever she basically feels like it. Why would you need to worry about the time of year and place of destination? She will be going to 3 different places next year. She and friends and family got together and picked dates and places and booked. >>

Well yes, got together and planned a schedule, that's what I said.  As for the time of year and destination, weather and holidays are two factors in traveling, there are others.  For example, we planned our last Europe trip as to not hit the Olympic traffic and higher costs.  I wouldn't plan a ski trip to Colorado in July either, lol.

>>Why couldn't they work around YOUR schedule? Do you always just work around other's schedules? She mostly goes to lunch with her exercise mates so they go right after class so no working around other's schedules.>>

Well they can, but that's still working around schedules and no I don't always work around other's schedules...that's what this whole tangent is about....remember?


PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:02am

It's not that she didn't have other interests, Fall. She missed the whole office atmosphere. She worked about 12 hours a week as a receptionist and loved it. She was very much a "people person" and enjoyed having a little office family to care for . She also did plenty of volunteer work, was an avid seamstress, loved her some crossword puzzles, and was active in desert ecology causes.

Didn't she have any friends so she could be around people? Was she a controlling type of person and didn't have the control over anyone after she retired? (as you said she "cared for" the people in the office).

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:04am

Well then, I'm sorry that you have limited experiences which don't include people enjoying their work.

There is a difference between someone enjoying their work and someone balancing their lives and having a life outside of work. I have NO interest in going into work on a day I am not scheduled to. I have other things that need to be done and want to be done. I work to live, not live to work. 

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:04am

falllflowers wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Who works to sock it all away? </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Bord's dh lololol</span></strong></p>

Well that's not true, why would you make up something like that and then find humor in those lies?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:06am
She was more a really motherly type, Fallflowers. The kind that is the one to bring a cake in on someone's birthday. I think I don't want you talking about my Mom anymore, Fallflowers. You seem determined to desecrate her memory for no good reason.
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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:07am

"Who works to sock it all away? Bord's dh lololol" Wrong again. If we want something or need something, we spend the money on it. We went on a 3 week 6,000 mile vacation last year just because. He gave his sister a trip to Paris for her birthday.

So your dh was never a "penny pincher"? Drove old cars (that people questioned if you were ok financially because of it), only bought one drink for 2 boys at Subway to save money, etc, etc.

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:09am

falllflowers wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Well then, I'm sorry that you have limited experiences which don't include people enjoying their work.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">There is a difference between someone enjoying their work and someone balancing their lives and having a life outside of work. I have NO interest in going into work on a day I am not scheduled to. I have other things that need to be done and want to be done. I work to live, not live to work. </span></strong></p>

You haven't demonstrated that you understand let alone are familiar with the difference.  I currently have a balance outside of work, remember...I'm not the one waiting to retirement to do a bunch of things, I'm already doing them!  One of those pieces in the balance is my work, which I enjoy.  I understand your thoughts though, I haven't always had a job that I enjoy and fits well into my balanced life, once upon a time, I felt the same way you do about work.  I'm so glad that is in the past though!

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:10am

<<She has had a choice of a few times of classes. She chose one and it has worked for her for a long time.>>

Yes, she worked around a schedule and found one that suited her, that's what I said.

No, she worked around HER schedule, not the classes.

<<She travels whenever she basically feels like it. Why would you need to worry about the time of year and place of destination? She will be going to 3 different places next year. She and friends and family got together and picked dates and places and booked. >>

Well yes, got together and planned a schedule, that's what I said.  As for the time of year and destination, weather and holidays are two factors in traveling, there are others.  For example, we planned our last Europe trip as to not hit the Olympic traffic and higher costs.  I wouldn't plan a ski trip to Colorado in July either, lol.

Well she does not do that. When she wants to go someplace, she goes. There really is not much that is going to stop her, weather, time, costs, etc.

>>Why couldn't they work around YOUR schedule? Do you always just work around other's schedules? She mostly goes to lunch with her exercise mates so they go right after class so no working around other's schedules.>>

Well they can, but that's still working around schedules and no I don't always work around other's schedules...that's what this whole tangent is about....remember?

It seems you have a problem working around things. I never see this problem with my retired mother. 

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:11am

falllflowers wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">"Who works to sock it all away? Bord's dh lololol" Wrong again. If we want something or need something, we spend the money on it. We went on a 3 week 6,000 mile vacation last year just because. He gave his sister a trip to Paris for her birthday.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">So your dh was never a "penny pincher"? Drove old cars (that people questioned if you were ok financially because of it), only bought one drink for 2 boys at Subway to save money, etc, etc.</span></strong></p>

Choosing to save money in some areas to spend in others doesn't equal socking it all away.  Because if one is socking it "all away", that would mean "all".   Perhaps this is another "memory" that is not a memory of a fact, but a made up comment that one wishes to believe to be true, but isn't?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:11am
We don't spend money in things we don't need and don't want, Fall. Some people, including you, seem to find that odd. That is your privilege.
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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:15am

<<No, she worked around HER schedule, not the classes.>>

Yes, but the place doesn't offer classes 24/7/365...you said she has a choice of a few classes and she picked one of them that worked with her schedule.  That's taking something and working it into your schedule.

<<Well she does not do that. When she wants to go someplace, she goes. There really is not much that is going to stop her, weather, time, costs, etc.>

I find it hard to believe that she doesn't do basic research on the area, check flight/transport times and have to work around those schedules.    How often does she come visit you and your family?

<<It seems you have a problem working around things. I never see this problem with my retired mother. >>

Well that isn't true, not at all and nothing I have "actually" said would imply that I have a problem working around things....

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:16am

You haven't demonstrated that you understand let alone are familiar with the difference.  I currently have a balance outside of work, remember...I'm not the one waiting to retirement to do a bunch of things, I'm already doing them!  One of those pieces in the balance is my work, which I enjoy.  I understand your thoughts though, I haven't always had a job that I enjoy and fits well into my balanced life, once upon a time, I felt the same way you do about work.  I'm so glad that is in the past though!

Fabricating stories about my job now? lol. I have a balance and do, do things BUT again, like everyone else who retires and has more time to do things, I would be able to do many things more if I was not working. 
Don't you know anyone that DOES enjoy their job but would like to never work again? Is that concept foreign to you?

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:18am
We don't spend money in things we don't need and don't want, Fall. Some people, including you, seem to find that odd. That is your privilege.
Your own friends and family are the ones who commented, not myself. I guess that didn't send an alert that something is odd. 
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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:20am

falllflowers wrote:
<div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; font-size:13px; text-align:left"><div><div><div><p>You haven't demonstrated that you understand let alone are familiar with the difference.  I currently have a balance outside of work, remember...I'm not the one waiting to retirement to do a bunch of things, I'm already doing them!  One of those pieces in the balance is my work, which I enjoy.  I understand your thoughts though, I haven't always had a job that I enjoy and fits well into my balanced life, once upon a time, I felt the same way you do about work.  I'm so glad that is in the past though!</p><div><strong>Fabricating stories about my job now? lol. I have a balance and do, do things BUT again, like everyone else who retires and has more time to do things, I would be able to do many things more if I was not working. </strong></div><div></div><div><strong>Don't you know anyone that DOES enjoy their job but would like to never work again? Is that concept foreign to you?</strong></div></div></div></div></div>

I didn't say anything about your job flower, I said I understand being in the same position as you of not wanting to go into work when you aren't scheduled.  I was agreeing with you so don't make up things that aren't there.  lol

I do know people who enjoy their work and havne't ever worked again, so no that concept isn't foreign to me at all.  I already gave you an example of just that.  Please reivew the thread for an example.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:21am

<<No, she worked around HER schedule, not the classes.>>

Yes, but the place doesn't offer classes 24/7/365...you said she has a choice of a few classes and she picked one of them that worked with her schedule.  That's taking something and working it into your schedule.

No, not really. She didn't really have a "schedule" since SHE IS RETIRED lol.

<<Well she does not do that. When she wants to go someplace, she goes. There really is not much that is going to stop her, weather, time, costs, etc.>

I find it hard to believe that she doesn't do basic research on the area, check flight/transport times and have to work around those schedules.  

No, not really.

How often does she come visit you and your family?

Why? I was not only talking about coming to visit me and my family.

<<It seems you have a problem working around things. I never see this problem with my retired mother. >>

Well that isn't true, not at all and nothing I have "actually" said would imply that I have a problem working around things....

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:22am
Yes, some people thought we would trade in a perfectly functional economy model car with many years left on it for a luxury vehicle once they thought we "could." We didn't want a luxury vehicle. He still happily drives a pretty basic car, by choice.
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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:24am

Yes, some people thought we would trade in a perfectly functional economy model car with many years left on it for a luxury vehicle once they thought we "could." We didn't want a luxury vehicle. He still happily drives a pretty basic car, by choice.

Did they SAY "luxury vehicle" or did they say something MORE than a Yugo? lololol.

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