Certainly you know them...

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Sun, 11-10-2013 - 6:53am

People that wake up everyday to sunshine regardless of the actual weather, whose lives look peachy perfect b/c of their demeanor, whose energies and smiles motivate you or make you want to strangle them... 

Or do you? 

 

 

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:12am

<<Things can be moved around to allow for all of them.>>

Exactly!  Working around schedules, thank you.

To your OWN schedule, not someone else's. You keep speaking of working around OTHER's schedules.

<Most often when she wants to go someplace, there is a flight scheduled. Not sure why that is a hard concept to grasp. >>

I don't know, because I don't have a private plane and I have to go with how the airlines schedule their planes, when hotels allow checkin, when restaurants have open tables, when museums are open and so on and so forth.   I don't believe the world revolves around me, shrug.

She is lucky then to have flights that run almost every hour where she usually goes. I never said the world revolved around her but since her schedule is usually wide open because SHE IS RETIRED, she is able to utilitize almost everything available.

<<Yes she does, and?>>

Just asking, so she is there every month, every week?  How often is regular?

Why do you need to know? You seem to want to know when she comes to visit US. You DO know that people have other family and friends, right? I was including all of those.

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:12am

falllflowers wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">"Drove old cars (that people questioned if you were ok financially because of it)," ------- Why on earth would someone care what other people thought of a stupid car? My dad is quite wealthy as were my grandparents, and they all drove very humble cars, old ones too sometimes.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I don't know. Ask Bord whose friends and family commenting on the car her dh drove.</span></strong></p>

Well, you clearly care since you brought it up.

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:13am

bordwithyou wrote:
My husband would probably still have a flip phone if it were up to him. I got him a smart phone last time we upgraded, and he liked it, but he probably would have used the flip phone until it died.

My flip phone just died, it got wet and not even dry rice helped.  I could pay 20.00 to replace the phone or get a free iphone and pay that a month for the "plan" DH would add.  I haven't figured out what I'm going to do yet and I know I am behind the times, Lol.  If  do the iphone I'll have to get a tutorial from my girls who know more about it than I. 

 

 

 

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:16am

<<To your OWN schedule, not someone else's. You keep speaking of working around OTHER's schedules.>>

If you are working around your own schedule, addding classes (which are someone else's schedule) you are doing both.  Just like making any appointment or reservation, you are working around multiple schedules.  

<<he is lucky then to have flights that run almost every hour where she usually goes. I never said the world revolved around her but since her schedule is usually wide open because SHE IS RETIRED, she is able to utilitize almost everything available.>>

Oh...she goes to the same place usually, that would cut down on schedule working.  If one has to work around schedules, even a little...that's what I'm talking about.

<<Why do you need to know? You seem to want to know when she comes to visit US. You DO know that people have other family and friends, right? I was including all of those.>>

I never said I needed to know, I asked a question, just like you asked questions about bords mom.  If you don't wish to answer the question...don't.



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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:19am
What's a humble car?

 

 

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:27am

falllflowers wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">"Drove old cars (that people questioned if you were ok financially because of it)," ------- Why on earth would someone care what other people thought of a stupid car? My dad is quite wealthy as were my grandparents, and they all drove very humble cars, old ones too sometimes.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I don't know. Ask Bord whose friends and family commenting on the car her dh drove.</span></strong></p>

DH's sister visited us for Christmas one year and we had our garage door open so you could see his ten year old car in there.  She goes, Oh, You still drive that poor man's car?  The best kind of car is a paid for car is the principle he lives by, Lol.  For some people that does look like a a socio-economic difference I guess. 

 

 

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:35am
"Ask Bord whose friends and family commenting on the car her dh drove." ------ I had no impression that it really bothered bord, although she might have found it a little funny or maybe silly that her relatives concerned themselves with such things.
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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:37am
"What's a humble car?" ------ Small, cheap and distinctly lacking flash. My grandma loved her little Honda. My dad had a thing for 2CVs and that was our family car for years. He could afford "better," but thought it was silly to throw money away for a bunch of metal on wheels. He would spend on other things.
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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:43am

I think there's something "impressionable" about gifting a trip to Paris to a family member.. Are these people that live less than you, bord? 

 

 

 

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:44am

<<To your OWN schedule, not someone else's. You keep speaking of working around OTHER's schedules.>>

If you are working around your own schedule, addding classes (which are someone else's schedule) you are doing both.  Just like making any appointment or reservation, you are working around multiple schedules.  

True but there is more flexibility then when she was working. She can take the morning and afternoon classes and appointments now instead of taking days off or doing things only on the weekend. You can have your OWN schedule after being retired.

<<he is lucky then to have flights that run almost every hour where she usually goes. I never said the world revolved around her but since her schedule is usually wide open because SHE IS RETIRED, she is able to utilitize almost everything available.>>

Oh...she goes to the same place usually, that would cut down on schedule working.  If one has to work around schedules, even a little...that's what I'm talking about.

Nope, I never said that and actually said the opposite. 

<<Why do you need to know? You seem to want to know when she comes to visit US. You DO know that people have other family and friends, right? I was including all of those.>>

I never said I needed to know, I asked a question, just like you asked questions about bords mom.  If you don't wish to answer the question...don't.

I don't find a reason that this would contribute to the thread at hand. 

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:47am

DH's sister visited us for Christmas one year and we had our garage door open so you could see his ten year old car in there.  She goes, Oh, You still drive that poor man's car?  The best kind of car is a paid for car is the principle he lives by, Lol.  For some people that does look like a a socio-economic difference I guess. 

lolololol

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 11:48am
"I think there's something impressionable about gifting a trip to Paris to a family member.. " -------- I am not sure exactly what you mean by "impressionable," but last time we went to Paris we paid for an extra ticket so one of our cousins could come along. I wanted some girl company, but my cousin does not have extra traveling cash, so I paid. We had a great time. Actually the picture of the beige/brown boots was taken in front of the Louvre, with me in all my chemo gear.
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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 12:38pm

<<True but there is more flexibility then when she was working. She can take the morning and afternoon classes and appointments now instead of taking days off or doing things only on the weekend. You can have your OWN schedule after being retired.>>

Your first sentence is what I have been saying, but having more flexibility doesn't mean one doesn't have to work around schedules, which is what I'm saying.  Hey, my parents are retired as well and have a busy active life and while they can make their own schedule, they still have to work around things because they know...the world doesn't revolve around them.

<<<<he is lucky then to have flights that run almost every hour where she usually goes. I never said the world revolved around her but since her schedule is usually wide open because SHE IS RETIRED, she is able to utilitize almost everything available.>>

Oh...she goes to the same place usually, that would cut down on schedule working.  If one has to work around schedules, even a little...that's what I'm talking about.

Nope, I never said that and actually said the opposite. >>

What are you saying the opposite?

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 1:07pm

<<True but there is more flexibility then when she was working. She can take the morning and afternoon classes and appointments now instead of taking days off or doing things only on the weekend. You can have your OWN schedule after being retired.>>

Your first sentence is what I have been saying, but having more flexibility doesn't mean one doesn't have to work around schedules, which is what I'm saying.  Hey, my parents are retired as well and have a busy active life and while they can make their own schedule, they still have to work around things because they know...the world doesn't revolve around them.

But they CAN do things at times that they might NOT have had to when they were working. They can ask places for times for THEM and not have to work around the places schedules either.

<<<<he is lucky then to have flights that run almost every hour where she usually goes. I never said the world revolved around her but since her schedule is usually wide open because SHE IS RETIRED, she is able to utilitize almost everything available.>>

Oh...she goes to the same place usually, that would cut down on schedule working.  If one has to work around schedules, even a little...that's what I'm talking about.

Nope, I never said that and actually said the opposite. >>

What are you saying the opposite?

That she does not go to the same place all the time to be able to do this.

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 1:28pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
I think there's something impressionable about gifting a trip to Paris to a family member.. Are these people that live less than you bord?

What do you mean by "live less than?"  My husband had to go to Paris for business in September, and then two weeks later he had to be in another part of France for business.  It didn't make sense for him to come home for those two weeks, so he decided to go touring in the Loire Valley, a part of France we've never visited.  I couldn't come along because I was working and because we couldn't leave the 17 year old alone for three weeks, and he thought it would be fun to have someone along.  His sister is mostly retired and he called and asked if she wanted to come along.  She did.  He and his brother chipped in for the cost of the trip for their sister as a gift.

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 1:54pm
Bord, lol, I hadn't caught that. I was wondering what was up with Paris trips suddenly. I am breaking my head as to what is wrong with taking your sister along for a trip. My little bro was sweet enough to fly in for my birthday this year, and it was so great to see him. But I suspect my mom may have bought him the ticket. Shrug!
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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 2:56pm

<<But they CAN do things at times that they might NOT have had to when they were working. They can ask places for times for THEM and not have to work around the places schedules either.>>

You are missing the point, they still have schedules to work around, could they have more flexibility?  Sure, but I never said they didn..what I said was that they still have stuff to work around.

<<That she does not go to the same place all the time to be able to do this.>>

You just said that <<she is lucky then to have flights that run almost every hour where she usually goes. >> whichi is the opposite of what you are now saying.


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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 3:04pm

<<But they CAN do things at times that they might NOT have had to when they were working. They can ask places for times for THEM and not have to work around the places schedules either.>>

You are missing the point, they still have schedules to work around, could they have more flexibility?  Sure, but I never said they didn..what I said was that they still have stuff to work around.

I still find it less than someone who is working a full time job.

<<That she does not go to the same place all the time to be able to do this.>>

You just said that <<she is lucky then to have flights that run almost every hour where she usually goes. >> whichi is the opposite of what you are now saying.

No, I am not. Why do flights that run almost every hour have to be to only one place?

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 3:17pm

<<I still find it less than someone who is working a full time job.>>

Well as I said waaaay back in the the thread, I think part of retirement includes way more flexibily to which you replied that wouldn't I consider it full flexibilty and I said no because there would be things to work around, to which you spent upteen posts disagreeing with to now say that you find it less than someone working a full time job.  Well yea, that's what I said earlier.

<<No, I am not. Why do flights that run almost every hour have to be to only one place?>>

What?

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 7:23pm
I can speak with authority that PKA is willing to work around others' schedules. She's done so with me and my schedule at least three times in the last 18 months.

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