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| Sun, 11-10-2013 - 6:53am |
People that wake up everyday to sunshine regardless of the actual weather, whose lives look peachy perfect b/c of their demeanor, whose energies and smiles motivate you or make you want to strangle them...
Or do you?

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Cool, Forgive me then for thinking this last post at morty was to wave around what you think is a better life than hers again... And spending money just because sounds like keeping up.. Real wealth doesn't brag like that.
"Who works to sock it all away? Bord's dh lololol" Wrong again. If we want something or need something, we spend the money on it. We went on a 3 week 6,000 mile vacation last year just because. He gave his sister a trip to Paris for her birthday
I know. That's when you change the subject to humble roots and all the joys in little things... I Lol'd too, How could you not to her ignorance.
Likewise the demeaning posts you like as snark, about my family, my kids specifically and more than once I might add. What you excuse and what you reply at so rudely show, whether you admit it or not.
DD1 went through a period where she'd go, No offenense but... Then add something about me or what I was wearing. I never took it as "incredibly offensive" b/c it wasn't. I appreciate her honesty and that usually opened the discussion door about manners and what you don't say around others.
Maybe what you hear is different.
so, Jamblessed, two questions:
1). Is it "trying to keep up" or "trying to impress" when Morty posts about her travels, or is it only my family's travels that are offensive to yo
2). If your daughter's comments were not offensive, why did you have to talk to her about poor manners? What was wrong with them?
2). If your daughter's comments were not offensive, why did you have to talk to her about poor manners? What was wrong with them?
Because I can step outside my comfort zone and see how what she can comfortably share with me might sond offensive to someone else? I can't think of anything my kids say that is ugh-worthy.. Maybe just a couple... In history class she said they were talking Hitler and her teacher brought in the word, "knocking up" to describe him womanizing. Not only is that not appropriate but major ugh-worthy which is how I replied when she told me that, Lol. She's got a strange history teacher.
Why are morty's cruises beneath your trips? You've gone as far as saying her spending habits are wrong. Who goes around saying, We spend just because if not to mark some impression or brag?
1). If you are allowing your daughter to say things to you that might sound offensive to someone else, that is your business. If a child in my house says something like "No offense, but you are too fat for that shirt," I am not afraid to tell him/her that s/he IS being offensive, and that s/heneeds to rephrase her comments or keep them to herself. 2. No one ever said Morty's cruises are beneath our family's trips. No one at all, ever. You made that up. I said Morty and I have different ideas about money. That is true, I have never said that Morty is "wrong" about money. You made that up, too. The reason I said we spend money "just because" was to refute Morty's offensive statements about my husband being a miser. It was a perfectly appropriate statement in context. And guess what? Anytime anyone spends money on something they want but do not need, a/he is spending money "just because." That is not a brag. It is a fact.
Bord.....you are speaking about vacations and spending money NOW. Were you and your dh being more frugal when you were in your 30's and 40's? You never did answer me about the soda either and I have asked a few times, here and in another thread.
For vacations, I do no more than mention mine as others mention theirs. I have no need to try and impress anyone and if you noticed, I dont go around saying how much our salaries are or how much money we have saved. Those things are private and if you have to find the need to tell people how much you have, then usually people dont have it.
Curious double standard you've got there, Jams. You've mocked Bord's credit card usage a number of times.
So you are comparing 30-40 years. At 70 years old, most prople ARE able to go on 3 week vacations so not sure why that is supposed to impress me or anyone else. I am glad that I am not waiting another 30 years to do things And might not be in 100% shape to do them, like you dh whom you have said cant drive at night as he is legally blind, correct? You never know what will happen in life and I personally do not see the need to live so tightly for so many years.
What else does your dh spend money on now that he didnt years ago?
Do you spend money on your home Chest?
Of course it is different but I dont want to wait until I am uncapable of doing things, to have the money to do them.
You and your dh are very frugal and you still are. That will not change with age and the amount of money you saved.
Money does not impress me as well as waiting 40 years to use it. Anybody can say they have money as they dont usually show bank statements to the public.
Why do you bother answering me then? Do you really have nothing else to do? I have a jam packed weekend with football games, parties, etc so sorry to disappoint you that I cant go back and forth all day.
Have a wonderful weekend. Hope you can find something to do. Maybe sit around and count all your money. I am going to go spend mine and enjoy life (while my retirement money was put into my account yesterday so I am saving at the same time) :)
Well you have in the past, asked for advice at least on savings and budgets. You also like to mock spending habits and salaries of others, I'm not sure why you think that is admirable.
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