christams gifts...

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Registered: 10-22-2009
christams gifts...
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Tue, 12-14-2010 - 10:29am

For your kids do you make sure to spend the same amount of money and get the same amount of gifts?

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 12:24pm

I like for their piles to look even, and I have a set number. They only ask for one or two items each, and I fill in around those items to make it even. The boys are each getting 5 gifts, two from Santa (the two they asked for), one from us, one from the baby, and one from each other, plus stockings. The baby is getting fewer items. One big item from Santa, one small item from us, one small item from the boys. Hers will not be even with the boys, so it will be interesting to see if they notice. But we did not get any of them a lot for their first Christmas. I have an intense dislike of most baby toys because they tend to be plastic. Not to mention, both of the boys (on their first Christmas) wanted to play with their first gift and were annoyed to have to stop to open other gifts.

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Registered: 03-25-2010
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 12:34pm
We don't really look at it that way, we don't spend a certain amount each kid. We tend to get the kids one big gift each and then a couple of smaller ones, in general. And this, the gift that dh and I decided on for ds1 is about twice as expensive as the gift for ds2, both boys will be thrilled with their gifts but we aren't going to go out and make up the difference in gifts for ds2 becaue we spent more. Ds1's gift this year just happened to cost more.

Birthdays....it varies, depends on what they ask for, but again I don't work to spend more on a gift to equalize them. I think it all works out in the long run.
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Registered: 10-22-2009
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 12:45pm

Good point it always does work out in the long run...now if i could just

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 12:46pm

oh no, not AT your DH but taht stinks.

FWIW, DH is the youngest boy in his family and honestly, he grew up competing for alot of attention with his

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2009
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 12:58pm
Nah...they wouldn't hate it but it might make em miss me! ;)
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Registered: 10-22-2009
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 1:05pm

Yes, dh does recognize this is is very adamant about not raising his kids that way.

Only at gift giving time he may tend to over do....which really just comes from the type of guy he is.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 1:16pm

We usually try and get the same amount of gifts but as my oldest is 5 years older, it is getting tougher as her gifts are getting more expensive. We have told them this though and they have said they understand.

We have a budget and my mom will send her gifts as money which we buy their gifts (my dd picked out her boots this year and ds got slippers at the same time) and then put on them from Grandma.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 1:20pm

My dh is the same way. He also was the youngest so he got all hand-me downs (from many people not just one) and feels if we can have a nice Christmas for our children, we will.

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 1:30pm

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Registered: 03-25-2010
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 1:37pm
I think it's hard to let it go....you don't want to look as if you are favoring one child over the other in regards to amount or number of gifts. I'm even going to buy something small for ds1 since he won't have any wrapped present from his dad and I under the tree becasuse I want him to have something to unwrap, kwim?

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