Close relationships

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Close relationships
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Thu, 01-16-2014 - 9:58am

Inspired by the pestering in the monster thread, What is a close relationship to you?  Is there any such thing as being too close?  Are you close to your spouse/so?  Your children?  Your parents?  Your friends?  Is there an ideal image of close..  If so what does that look like? 

I know, Lots of questions...  Play or pass..

 


 


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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 01-16-2014 - 4:56pm

Blood relatives are who I naturally feel closest to.

I have many friends who know more things about me then my family does. Blood doesn't make you family Laughing

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 01-16-2014 - 4:58pm

Some people are quieter also about things that go on in their lives. I am the type to post things on facebook, my sibling is not. I work with someone who feels like nothing is anyone's business. I get this but then when things happen it is hard to help them and I think she has learned to open up a little bit more to us so we can help her in times of need when she needs a friend's shoulder (and laughter).

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Thu, 01-16-2014 - 5:45pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p>Some people are quieter also about things that go on in their lives. I am the type to post things on facebook, my sibling is not. I work with someone who feels like nothing is anyone's business. I get this but then when things happen it is hard to help them and I think she has learned to open up a little bit more to us so we can help her in times of need when she needs a friend's shoulder (and laughter).</p>

You raise good points, Only a couple of us siblings have facebook accounts and there are times I find out things before anyone b/c I'll say I saw it there..  My sisters are a riot irl but they refuse to get fb accounts, Self control is a good thing, Lol.   

 


 


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Thu, 01-16-2014 - 6:33pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p>Some people are quieter also about things that go on in their lives. I am the type to post things on facebook, my sibling is not. I work with someone who feels like nothing is anyone's business. I get this but then when things happen it is hard to help them and I think she has learned to open up a little bit more to us so we can help her in times of need when she needs a friend's shoulder (and laughter).</p>

Some people prefer to keep their professional lives and their personal lives separate.  I am friendly with everyone at work, and we share laughs and things, but not close friends with anyone, and no one at work is anyone I would ask for help with something going on in my personal life.

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Thu, 01-16-2014 - 9:16pm
My guess is the quiet office type isn't going to ask for help when you think she may need it either.

 


 


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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 01-16-2014 - 9:21pm

You raise good points, Only a couple of us siblings have facebook accounts and there are times I find out things before anyone b/c I'll say I saw it there..  My sisters are a riot irl but they refuse to get fb accounts, Self control is a good thing, Lol.   

Yep facebook brings you more into someones life. Not everyone shares everything online or IRL, even with family. Some things just dont cross some people's minds that they should mention it.

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 01-16-2014 - 9:24pm

Some people prefer to keep their professional lives and their personal lives separate.  I am friendly with everyone at work, and we share laughs and things, but not close friends with anyone, and no one at work is anyone I would ask for help with something going on in my personal life.

That is true. I work in a dept that we are all pretty much close enough to tell most things to each other. We have enjoyed doing thing together ourside of work too. It is just a different dynamic in our dept.

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 01-16-2014 - 9:26pm
    My guess is the quiet office type isn't going to ask for help when you think she may need it either.
    That is probably true. This coworker had something happen to her family recently and she actually thanked me for making her laugh as she hadnt laughed in a week. Sometimes you need to open up to heal.
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    Registered: 08-22-2009
    Thu, 01-16-2014 - 9:57pm

    I do not know what the definition of close would be, to me it would be about feeling a connection. 

    I am most close to my DH followed by my DDs.  I was close to my mother but not my father. 

    Although I love them very much I do not consider myself to be close to my siblings.  My older sister I talk  to about twice a month, the others rarely.

    On the work front I consider myself to be close to a couple of co-workers. One has been there longer than I have, we have a lot in common so connected welll.  But even though we share a lot of personal stuff with each other we do not see each other aside of work with the exception of a few work related weddings we have been to,   The other has only been there a few years but we also connected welll and she really helped me when I was going through some hard times last year. but I have never seen her outside of work.  

    I do think that there can be being too close but I think a lot of it has to do with personalities.  What some would see as too close others would see as normal.


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    Registered: 10-23-2001
    Fri, 01-17-2014 - 8:01am
    You come across as someone that would do that and I bet that sweet gesture did lift her spirits.

     


     


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