Close relationships

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Thu, 01-16-2014 - 9:58am

Inspired by the pestering in the monster thread, What is a close relationship to you?  Is there any such thing as being too close?  Are you close to your spouse/so?  Your children?  Your parents?  Your friends?  Is there an ideal image of close..  If so what does that look like? 

I know, Lots of questions...  Play or pass..

 


 


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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 8:05am

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span>You raise good points, Only a couple of us siblings have facebook accounts and there are times I find out things before anyone b/c I'll say I saw it there..  My sisters are a riot irl but they refuse to get fb accounts, Self control is a good thing, Lol.   </span></p><p><span>Yep facebook brings you more into someones life. Not everyone shares everything online or IRL, even with family. Some things just dont cross some people's minds that they should mention it.</span></p>

Cousins of mine post more goings on than my brother does there, But I don't unveil a lot of my life there either.  I think fb is a whole lot like real life although it's less likely I'm going to salute or agree with something Chuck Schumer says in real life like I would on facebook, Lol. 

 


 


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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 8:08am
Your professional life does overlap with your personal life if you're inviting grad students over or offering up laundry services to college kids.

 


 


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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 8:27am
"Your professional life does overlap with your personal life if you're inviting grad students over or offering up laundry services to college kids." The one college student who uses my washer/dryer I have known practically since she was born, and she will never take a class from me. It is true that the relationship between a graduate mentor and graduate students has odd boundaries. We travel together, sometimes share hotel rooms, but we are not quite on a level to be "friends." I am friends with my former graduate students, though. It's nice when we become peers and the hierarchy thing diminishes.
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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 9:14am

One of my professors and I are fb friends, we stay connected about some human services projects and volunteerism. What do you and your grad students stay connected for?  Curious...

 


 


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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 9:29am

I would say tht the students I've remained connected with are students that I genuinely like, and am interested in what is going on in their lives, and the feeling is pretty much mutual. Same with any friend. You like them, and you are interested in their lives.

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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 9:57am
I thought there was some significance behind sharing hotel rooms together.. Do you travel together for fun or is it related to course work?

 


 


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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 9:58am

You come across as someone that would do that and I bet that sweet gesture did lift her spirits.

Thanks Jams. It really did and I am glad I could help her. I use humor all the time and it really helps cut through things, especially serious things that just need a little bit of help.

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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 10:00am

Cousins of mine post more goings on than my brother does there, But I don't unveil a lot of my life there either.  I think fb is a whole lot like real life although it's less likely I'm going to salute or agree with something Chuck Schumer says in real life like I would on facebook, Lol. 

lol. Yeah it all depends with me. Sometimes I post things and sometimes I don't (you know as you see it all lol). 

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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 10:03am
I would bet, given that Bord works for a state university, that the sharing of hotel rooms is a cost factor. State finance rules on travel payments are horrendous.

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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 10:04am
Most of my FB postings are very casual and social. Pretty fluffy. I don't often put the "meat" of my life on FB.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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