Condoms for 12 year olds?

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Condoms for 12 year olds?
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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 2:35pm

A school district in MA is considering offering condoms to students as young as 12, they are seeing sexual activity, STDs and pregnancy affecting kids even at this age.

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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 1:08pm
So if they pass them out and some of the kids don't use them ... where's the negative? They aren't in a worse position for having handed them out.

So, if there were that many kids having sex and they didnt' hand out condoms, would you pull your kid? If so, it isn't the "passing out condoms" that's the issue; it's the "too many 12yos are having sex" that is the issue.

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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 1:09pm
It is a last resort, in a way. It's a way to prvent STDs and unwanted pregnancies - it's not a way to prevent 12yo sex. That's got to be handled in another way. The schools can't solve that problem. But they CAN prevent pregnancies and STDs.

You can't let the wound bleed and bleed and bleed until the disease is cured. You have to control the bleeding in the meantime.

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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 2:20pm

Very good post, And there is no attention on the parents here.. It's assumed that kids can't talk to the parents and the facts that kids would sneak around to get their sex with school provided condoms is ignored..... About being at a school that passes out condoms, I have to say there are already rumors circulating that they are passed out in high school health class, I don't know. But

 


 


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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 2:39pm
No, the metaphorical bandaids don't solve the problem, but they can prevent some devastating complications, e.g. stds and pregnancy.

Schools have a very limited arsenal when the parents and the community will not step up. When things get so bad that there is an epidemic of middle school sex, then parents are not appropriately supervising their children, the community is not providing resources for schools to supervise and educate, and there is usually a lack of activities for after school enrichment.

After school programs, after school sports, #of teachers, non-academic classes like health are the first thing to go when the school budgets are squeezed. There's not a lot the school can do. Probably the most important thing about the condoms for middle schoolers program is the publicity it brings to highlight the problem.
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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 3:09pm

Children fail or drop out of school because of parents who don't step up either.....

 


 


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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 3:23pm

To avoid ending up with pregnant 12 year olds and/or 12 year old fathers-to-be.

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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 3:44pm
The school did not make the decision, the elected school committee, with the support of the Mayor, made the ruling due to some striking statistics preteen sexual activity in their community. Just an example of democracy in action. If you don't like it, then become involved in the electoral process. The parents have the civic responsibility to vote.



Does it really sound like parents in the community have a clue? Springfield has the fourth highest teen birth rate and the second highest sexually transmitted infection rate in the state. The ones who object can opt out of the program, and supervise their children how they see fit, but the community believes it has the right to protect the children who are sexually active. IMO, it is too little, but it may wake up the community to become aware of what their preteen children are up to.
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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 3:53pm
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No. It's *known* that *some* kids cant' talk to their parents.

<< kids would sneak around to get their sex with school provided condoms is ignored.>>

No. It's quite obvious that kids are *already* sneaking around to have sex.

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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 3:56pm
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Irrelevant to the discussion at hand.

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And? Has there been an stance that teh school isn't or shouldn't be in contact with parents?

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No argument from me. They shouldn't be doing it alone.

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They aren't making decisions. The kids are making the decision to have sex.

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They aren't stepping over parents. Parents can (accordint to the article, IIRC) opt out. Parents can also tell their kids "don't have sex. If you do here's a condom" and then there's no need for their kid to get condoms from the school.




But to address other points in your post, I've witnessed parents who are directly, knowingly negligent and forced the school to step in and provide clothes, food and school supplies.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 5:08pm
I doubt it will be effective (especially since the abusive parents someone referred to below can opt out) , but now the school thinks it has done something to solve the problem. And it normalizes the behavior, which could have a negative effect on the kids who aren't having sex. I think it's important for pre-teens to know that having sex at that age is not the norm.

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