consequences

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Registered: 10-22-2009
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Tue, 09-28-2010 - 5:25pm

Watched a t.v program the other nite that a mother described consequences and bad behavior = additiobal chores/ house work. yard work ect..for her child. For instance, you kick your brother, you may dig a hole to plant the trees or rack the leaves. She does not take away privelages unless it fits the crime example, problems with cell phone use, you lose your cell phone, but walking a very fine line, b/c taking away a cell phne can create problems for the parents when they need the child to have the phone for saftey issues, communication issues ect.

Have been having a on going discussion about this with other friends about how they view this..

Productive, positive, good, bad, unproductive, negative ect...

What do you think.

Only had a sec to post sorry if it is confusing..

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Registered: 06-16-2010
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 10:18am
I am printing this out for future reference! Thank you.

Kevali


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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 10-06-2010 - 6:52am

i had to do a double take, i see. :smileywink:

i've removed privleges from DD1 before, that's included

 

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:10pm
I wasn't punished for watching a TV show. My punishment was being grounded for a week (meaning no TV, no movies, no going to friends' houses). The fact that I had been looking forward to Shark Week was just salt in the wound, LOL.




















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Registered: 03-29-1999
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 6:23pm
Same here, public library.
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Registered: 06-04-2003
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 1:33pm

About 4 years ago my children were extremely bad on Mother's Day. It's a much longer story than just that but for brevity I will leave it at that.



At the end of the day I sat them down and told them how disappointed I was of them and that they acted very spoiled today. I decided that they needed to learn the difference between a right and a privledge. (We live in an affluent area so they think - trips to Europe, beach houses and ponies are privledge and everthing else is their right).



I explained that everything they had was a privledge execept for living in my house, going to school (right to an education is in the constitution) and eating enough so they don't starve.



For 2 days they had to live off of breakfast, lunch and dinner - no snacks, the only entertainment was

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 11:12am
Ohhhh, its still a good idea and one our public library does not do.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 11:06am

It's our public library that does the cans for fines. Not the school library. I don't think that the school library has done anything like that.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:57am
i have a 12 year old who reminds me too, almost daily. :0

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:23am

Our school does can good's drive every year. We have a room to donate clothes, but they go to the school nurser first. that is about giving thier time and helping charaties and orginizations. We have nothing that is related to the library with lost books fines.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:10am

Dylan's schools over the years has had can food drives, old jeans drives, and sweater/sweatshirt drives for the local homeless shelter/food bank.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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