DH update (might be long)

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DH update (might be long)
Sun, 12-14-2003 - 11:33am

O.K. Ladies, things have changed very, very quickly and for the worse. Devin went to the doctor Wednesday and he was very blunt with us. It had to be very painful for the doctor since he has known Devin for over 7 years. He told us that the chemo was not working and the tumor was growing. He suggested calling in hospice and taking a different chemo. He also put him on the Thalimode at a very small dosage.

Devin has signed a DNR and he has agreed to go to a Living with Dying class at Gilda's. He has a reached an unbelievable level of acceptance. It is a true Christmas miracle. We are, of course, heartbroken but we all knew it was coming.

This weekend he has seemed to decrease physically very quickly. He went from walking with a cane to using a wheelchair in the space of days. He has fallen numerous times and I have two people at the house at all times. It takes two people to manage him.

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)



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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 11:46am

Thank God for small miracles.

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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 12:25pm

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 12:41pm
The strength of you and your family during this time is truly moving. My heart goes out to you and my prayers. I hope you have a peaceful Christmas together as a family.



"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 12:51pm
As always you are in my thoughts and my prayers. May G-d watch over all of you during this difficult time.


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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 2:10pm

Kristi. . .I haven't stopped thinking about you this week. . .although I know it won't be easy, my Chistmas wish is that

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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 2:21pm
hi kristi, its good to hear from you. as always you are in my heart and prayers. im glad to hear you are getting help rather than resistance.
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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 2:39pm
(((Kristi))) May peace be with you and your family. My prayers and thoughts are with you, as always. Hugs, Christi
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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 2:57pm
Thank you so much Kristi for taking the time to give updates! You and your family have so often been in my thoughts and prayers the last few months.


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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 3:02pm


I am so glad you will have Devin's brother with you.

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Mon, 12-15-2003 - 7:32am
So sorry to hear that Kristi. You're always in my prayers. Cherish what you still have. We're all here for you.