Do you feel like Cinderella ate your daughter, too?

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Do you feel like Cinderella ate your daughter, too?
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Fri, 01-28-2011 - 8:39am
"Cinderella Ate My Daughter": The evil reign of pink princesses Peggy Orenstein talks about the insidiousness of girlie-girl culture and how Hannah Montana leads to bullying

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I resisted the pink stuff quite vehemently. Dd had a dress-up box. In there she had tiaras and tulle galore, but it was dress-up, only and for playing. It was not for wearing out of the house. If she was given presents of overly tacky stuff that was meant for everyday wear, that stuff went in the dress-up box too.

Many of my friends thought I was completely evil. Others could not understand since, in their view, the whole point of having a girl child was that you could dress her up in gaudy, sparkly junk. My kid actually had grey wool dresses and plenty of navy blue outfits, lol.

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I am so glad that I have all boys!





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DD has a gigantic dress up box full of princessy things, but they are strictly for in house use only. I think I need to add some less princessy things to the box though . . . I'm thinking a cowboy outfit or Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz or a robot outfit. Also, while she's not allowed to wear princess dresses to school or tutus to dance class, she does wear a lot of pink and purple dresses. I'm more worried about the social aspects. I mean, she already knows who Hannah Montana is (not because we let her watch it-- I think just from the other girls in her Pre-K (!) class) and she's only 4!
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I wouldn't worry so much that she has heard of Hanna Montana, nor would I worry about pink dresses. I think the idea is to achieve some sort of reasonable balance. They have to know some "pop culture" info. OTOH, if Hanna Montana/hoochie mama is the dominant culture at daycare/school, then I might well try to find a different school or at least find some extra-curriculars with a different kind of clientele.

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The girls in DD's class are kind of into that kind of stuff, but DD usually plays with the boys. lol
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I have 2 girls, and ime, most girls go through a "pink princess" phase. It passes. We went from the "all pink or purple all the time phase" when they were 3 or 4 to the "pink purge" a few years later when they decided anything pink or frilly had to go. I wouldn't be worried that she knows who Hannah Montana is as long as you don't emphasize that stuff at home. We allowed our girls to watch very little television (they still watch almost no tv) and didn't buy any of that Disney stuff, and it worked out fine.
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i agree.

 

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LOL, dd used to do that quite a bit too, but only up to about age 5-6. By school age, gender identification becomes deeply important, and that is when I would worry more about the sort of ideas about gender norms that prevail in the kid's daily environment.

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I don't see the connection with bullying either. Maybe the kind of girls who want to dress/act like Hannah might be more likely to be the "queen bee" type.
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I never liked pink.

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