Do you feel like Cinderella ate your daughter, too?

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Do you feel like Cinderella ate your daughter, too?
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Fri, 01-28-2011 - 8:39am
"Cinderella Ate My Daughter": The evil reign of pink princesses Peggy Orenstein talks about the insidiousness of girlie-girl culture and how Hannah Montana leads to bullying

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No not at all there

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Mine has never gone thru that stage, she is ten and doubt she ever will.
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Registered: 10-22-2009
My older boys like pink.
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The Girl is a lover of pink and purple. But yet, she is not a girly-girl at all. She's not a total tomboy and doesn't eschew everything girly, but she's definitely not into the princess-thing.

We've had good experiences so far ... while she's had a bit of "girl drama" in her life, it's been very very infrequent. She's not, as her 4th grade teacher told me, "one of *those* girls."

But really, I'm not sure social media, Hannah Montana and the commercialization of princesses has much to do with it. It existed before (hello? Little House on the Prairie? Nellie Olsen?); it's always existed. I think now we are more aware of it (that is probably due in large part to social media and mainstream media). I also think teens are more independent than they used to be, so they have more means to make the bullying more obvious, and to react (if they're the one being bullied) in ways that they couldn't 50 years ago.

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Honestly, I can see the point about Hannah Montanna however, I think it is more likely the girls who adopt her behavior and live it out in everyday life, not the girls who merely watch the show. I believe we have a generation of little girls who are growing up too fast. The little girls who are growing up at a more typical rate often could feel left out. I have an 11 year old daughter who doesn't have a facebook or a cell phone. This leaves her out of many possible interactions with friends. Personally, I don't want my daughter to be so peer dependent at such a young age, which so many kids today seem to be. If they aren't texting or interacting with friends in some way they almost seem depressed or feel like they are missing out on something. I could see where some kids may use this to alientate other kids or bully under the radar, this is why I am not jumping on the bandwagon of getting my daughter a cell phone or a facebook account.

The only objection I have to princess related stuff is the notion of waiting on a man to make dreams come true. However, I think the average little girl just enjoys being girly and wearing pretty things and isn't thinking of it in that way. As ussal we attach our adult thoughts which may be the furthest thing from the kids mind.

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I tried to keep my daughter away from princesses and pink and everyone said they would come around. Well after we took her to Disney for her birthday she started talking about the castle and learned about princesses somewhere. Also, she is more into Wizards and Shake It Up more than Hannah Montana. She catches on to everything so fast Im not sure how she knows so much about these shows and their characters. She is really into playing with the iPod and being on iTunes. She doesnt listen to little kid songs anymore instead its more like Usher and Katy Perry. Kids will learn things from their friends and young family members. I have learned I can not keep her from certain things anymore. She will even walk around the house with an old phone and tell me she is texting someone. Did I mention she is almost 2 1/2?!
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At 2.5 years old, you can most certainly keep her away from the ipod and itunes. Just saying.

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I agree and would like to further add if the parent feels no sense of control at the age of 2 1/2 they are screwed when the kid reaches the teen years.

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So much for trying to avoid negative people this year. I can not have my eyes glued to her 24/7 if Im trying to get my 4 month old to sleep and she is whining because she wants music, go for it. She also has two aunts who are under age 15 and if they are playing with their iPods or computers, she wants to do the same. I look at it as being a toy and the iTouch probably helps with different skills for development. I dont think its harming her in any way. I am very strict with her and am teaching her to be independent. I never treated her like a baby and she doesnt act like one. Also at 2.5 she can count in Spanish, go through all of her alphabet and up to 20 with flash cards, and her Dr. said the majority of her growth milestones are that of a 4 year old.

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