Do you feel like Cinderella ate your daughter, too?

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Do you feel like Cinderella ate your daughter, too?
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Fri, 01-28-2011 - 8:39am
"Cinderella Ate My Daughter": The evil reign of pink princesses Peggy Orenstein talks about the insidiousness of girlie-girl culture and how Hannah Montana leads to bullying

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Kitty

"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

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I think how you parent stems a lot from how you grew up and its mostly based on do you want to be different or parent the same as how you grew up. I grew up with both parents until I was 5 and my sister was 3 around drugs and alcohol and then my dad ended up getting full custody of my sister and I, Thank God. I dont know where we would be if we would have stayed with her. Its very emotional to think about and I dont know how anyone can emotionally abuse their children and physically hurt them. I have been told that my mom used to hit my hand for touching her tables after she would clean them when I was learning to walk and I still have a scar from where she accidentally burned me on the back of my leg with a cig. These are things I will never forget. No we didnt buy her an iPod its actually my husbands iPod, maybe its just a new generation of young moms or maybe its because I never grew up with a mom that I want to be close with her. I do let her get away with some things but then Im very strict with other rules. Not getting into it. My dad was 40 years older than my sister and I so I always wanted to be a younger mom. I want to be her friend in terms that she can come to me for anything and then I want to discipline her for her actions. Everyone parents differently there will be some that agree and obviously some that disagree. If something should happen to her at a young age I want to look back and be happy not regret little things. If that means dancing to Katy Perry in her tutu with an iPod in her hand, Go for it!

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Registered: 01-29-2011

Ok keep nodding! At first I got worked up about the comments and now I find it amusing. You parent your way and I will parent my way. Everyone wants their kids to succeed and be better which means doing things differently. She is growing up in a fairly strict house with a Christian background. I dont need to explain myself any further.

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Then stop already! sheesh!
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"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

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Registered: 01-29-2011

Good for you, I have basically had to raise myself. I never said she was out of control so not sure where that got started. She is a normal happy toddler who likes to do normal kid things like go to the park and color and loves Mickey and then she also likes to listen to normal top 40 songs. She is also in ballet, gymnastics, and starting piano and golf this summer so its not like she sits at home with an iPod in her hand 24/7!

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mom2fourgrls wrote:

I agree and would like to further add if the parent feels no sense of control at the age of 2 1/2 they are screwed when the kid reaches the teen years.

Yep.


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Registered: 11-22-2000

I'm not sensing any negativity from either Rollmops or Mom2fourgirls.


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"I want to be her friend in terms that she can come to me for anything and then I want to discipline her for her actions."

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My kids must be screwed since they are not growing up "with a Christian background".

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