DOMA is struck down!!!!

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DOMA is struck down!!!!
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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 10:26am

YESSSSSSSSSS!!  Cram it, Uber-conservative Christian "right". LaughingLaughingLaughingLaughingLaughingLaughingLaughingLaughingLaughingLaughingLaughingLaughing

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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 9:06pm

A FB friend of mine posted a link to "A 30 Second Guide to How The Gay Marriage Ruling Affects You".  I felt it could be helpful here.

"

If You Are a Homosexual and Are Already Married:

The federal government now recognizes your marriage as a thing, and you are eligible for tax, health and pension benefits under federal law like any other married couple, pending further political shenanigans. You can file taxes jointly, all that [stuff].

If You Are a Homosexual and Want to Get Married:

This does nothing to affect you UNLESS you live in California. States are still free to decide whether or not same-sex marriage is legal, if you live in Mississippi this does not help you. But, the voter initiative to ban gay marriage in California is now dead, pending further legal challenges or other [whackery].

If You Are a Heterosexual and Do NOT Want to Enter Into a Homosexual Marriage:

You will not be required to marry a gay person. This is a common misunderstanding. This decision actually does not affect you in any way.

If You Are Currently in a Heterosexual Marriage:

This decision does not affect you in any way.

If You Are a Heterosexual Who is Not Currently Married:

This decision does not affect you in any way.


If You Are a Heterosexual Who Hopes to Eventually Marry:

This decision does not affect you in any way.

If You Are a Member of a Church That Performs Wedding Ceremonies But That Does Not Believe in Gay Marriage:

This decision does not affect you in any way.

If You Are a Religious Official Who Performs Wedding Ceremonies But Who Thinks Gay Marriage is Wrong:

This decision does not affect you in any way.

If You Are an Individual Who Believes Gay Marriage or Homosexuality in General is Wrong for Religious Reasons, and Wish to Continue Expressing Those Beliefs:

This decision does not affect you in any way.

If You Are an Individual Who Believes Gay Marriage or Homosexuality in General is Wrong for Non-Religious Reasons, and Wish to Continue Expressing Those Beliefs:

This decision does not affect you in any way.

If You Are a Heterosexual Who Fears This Decision Adversely Affects Your Marriage or the Concept of Marriage in General:

This decision does not affect you in any way.

If You Are a Heterosexual Who Fears This Decision Negatively Affects You in Some Way:

This decision does not affect you in any way.

If You Are a Heterosexual Who Suffers Anger or Anxiety at the Thought of Gay Couples Getting Married as an Abstract Concept, and Believes the Only Cure is to Legally Prevent Gay Marriage:

This decision will cause you some degree of anger or anxiety. Otherwise, this decision does not affect you in any way."

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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 6:38pm

and the respect for marriage act is about to be introduced again - to legalize it every where-- I think you're going to start to see the dominos tumble now-- some federal agencies  recognize "place of celebration" so if you were married in an equality state you can qualify for services under those agencies that use that as the barometer, some recognize place of residence - it gets awfully confusing awfully quick... the easiest thign would be to say "you're all good! go forth and marry!"    amiright?

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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 4:30pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p>We (me, dh and both kids) were discussing this at lunch. And we all think that Oklahoma will be one of the last - if not THE last - states to recognize gay marriage.  So while I"m very happy about today's decisions, it's really only those in 12 states (+DC) that will really be affected - for now.</p>

The important thing to realize is while Oklahoma may be among if not the, last state to change--they WILL change.  It's happening.  Maybe not today or tomorrow. But it's happening. And the faux-Christians can't stop it.

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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 4:01pm

Ditto Bord...

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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 3:45pm

We (me, dh and both kids) were discussing this at lunch. And we all think that Oklahoma will be one of the last - if not THE last - states to recognize gay marriage.  So while I"m very happy about today's decisions, it's really only those in 12 states (+DC) that will really be affected - for now.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 3:38pm

BeaArthurisMyReligion wrote:
<p>still wrapping my head around it all... doesn't seem real... I haven't filed a joint tax return in 10 years... and my wife has never filed one... LOL... and this weird peace of knowing our rights are protected as we age... just ... I've cried all day ... seriously.. all. freaking. day. </p>

It's wonderful for you, Bea, and I am so happy.  It's a little less happy here because in our state, same sex marriage is still illegal.  I have a number of friends who've gone across the state border to Iowa to marry, but they're stuck in limbo.  Thank God our Board of Curators just voted to extend benefits to domestic partners.

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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 3:32pm

still wrapping my head around it all... doesn't seem real... I haven't filed a joint tax return in 10 years... and my wife has never filed one... LOL... and this weird peace of knowing our rights are protected as we age... just ... I've cried all day ... seriously.. all. freaking. day.

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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 2:40pm

BeaArthurisMyReligion wrote:
<p>I don't believe so I think the ruling covers that-- I don't have to lie on my income taxes anymore and check 'single'</p>

Yea...snoopy dance!

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 2:40pm

BeaArthurisMyReligion wrote:
<p>I don't believe so I think the ruling covers that-- I don't have to lie on my income taxes anymore and check 'single'</p>

Yea...snoopy dance!

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-26-2013 - 11:59am

I am enjoying all of the funny fallout from the decision.

Andy Borowitz is awesome

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