Dropping off kids at the pool alone?

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Dropping off kids at the pool alone?
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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 4:21pm

At what age would you drop off your kids at a public pool, with lifeguards?

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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 4:26pm
There are so may variables here. I've dropped off my 13 year old and a friend for up to about three hours, as a once in awhile thing. To tell the truth, I am less concerned about them drowning -- they are good swimmers -- than I am about them getting bored in the pool and raising cain.
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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 4:31pm
My HOA pool (which is literally right out my backdoor) allows children unsupervised at 14.
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Registered: 05-13-2009
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 5:54pm
14 is my line in the sand for beach or pool dropoff.
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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 9:29pm

I think it really depends on a lot of variables. I don't think age 12 is too young for all kids.

Earlier this summer, while at the beach with two other families, we let our 10 y/o dds go to the pool by themselves. The pool was just off the beach so though we were not AT the pool, we were right nearby. All three of the girls have been on swim team for three years, plus the pool is rather small and not crowded so I didn't have a fear of drowning.

The age at our pool at home is also 10 y/o. I personally wouldn't drop my 10 y/o off there though. We live a few miles away and I just wouldn't feel comfortable leaving her there unsupervised. It's a large pool and can get VERY crowded. We know nearly all the lifeguards as well as the pool supervisor (swim team coach) but I still wouldn't feel comfortable with it.

If we had a neighborhood pool, I would definitely consider letting my 10 y/o go unsupervised as long as I was home nearby. We have friends who live in a few neighborhoods like this and they let their kids ride their bikes to the pool alone. I think it's different in a setting like that b/c there are so many kids/adults there that they know and most of the lifeguards are also teens from the neighborhood so that kind of situation wouldn't bother me. In fact, we have seriously considered moving to one of these types of neighborhoods precisely so that our kids COULD ride their bikes to the pool unsupervised once they were mature enough (would depend on the kid). It's quite different than the public pool we belong to.

I admit that I am not a helicopter mom. My 8 and 10 y/o are allowed to ride their bikes around the neighborhood with friends but they had to earn that privilege.

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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 7:25am

Our town lake has the same policy--12 and up. I am pretty comfortable dropping my kids off as long as they have a specific engagement to meet a friend. It's a small town, so the odds that a parent they know will be there are very good, and there are usually several lifeguards who protect the swimming area.


My son doesn't actually do all that much swimming anyway. He just plays pickle

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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 7:52am

our neighborhood pool's polciy is 10 and up.

 

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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 9:51am
our condo pool is 16 before they can be ther unsupervised.... which I don't mind as I love to swim and Liza and i swim together nearly every day the weather cooperates -- for the public pools i'm not sure what it is -- I think 14...
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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 10:35am

It would depend on the kid. Some 12yos are no doubt fine, others not. Dd started going to the beach with friends and without adults around that age. It did make me sick with worry, but they have to start somewhere, and it was not nice for either one of us to go to the beach together. Besides, I do not have either the time or patience to sit on a beach all day, and it did not seem fair that she could not go just because I worry.

As kids we had a small bay with very shallow water (about 3 feet at the deepest) about a mile from the summer house. My father built us a huge raft of oil barrels enclosed in a wood frame and we spent days there, with no adults. I was the oldest at maybe 10 and the youngest would have been 4-5. But my parents were pretty hang-loose when it came to safety.

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Registered: 03-06-2009
Wed, 07-29-2009 - 11:00am
I don't think this is a SAH/WOH issue -- just a general 'what age woudl you let your kids be at th epool alone?"
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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 11:06am

For me it depends on the group of kids involved, which friends my sons are going with as the level of swimming and possible horseplay varies, lol..


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