End of School Year Fluff

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End of School Year Fluff
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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 10:12am

1.  Do your kids go to school on the last day of school?

2.  Do you throw (or let them throw) an end of year party for their friends?

3.  How many *graduation ceremonies* will/have your children experienced in their life time?

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 9:55pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Oh dear...we are assuming it is regional because many people HERE in this cross section of where posters live, some people are saying that it is not common in their area.  YOU say it's common in your area, which would be one region of the US.  Whether you say region, state, county, area, whatever.  You want to be picky whether I say region, area, or certain place?  I don't know why, unless you are just looking for something to disagree with.  I don't think you even read my post, so I don't know why I bother to explain things out.  Additionally, if you believe people behave the same (you said they act closely) as when they are on any given reality show, then that explains a lot.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">I do believe it is common by me but that does not mean it does not happen in other places. THAT was my entire point. I personally think it is a lot of money, especially 2 years before college when that money could be used for that. </span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">While everyone knows that reality shows are scripted, there are a lot of things that people on those shows actually do in their lives and act the way they do. </span></strong></p>

Your entire point was one that no one disagreed with and no one was claiming that people in other regions of the country/world do not have these parties.  Again, you think and "debate" in absolutes and most posters do not do that. 

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Wed, 06-12-2013 - 12:33am

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Oh dear...we are assuming it is regional because many people HERE in this cross section of where posters live, some people are saying that it is not common in their area.  YOU say it's common in your area, which would be one region of the US.  Whether you say region, state, county, area, whatever.  You want to be picky whether I say region, area, or certain place?  I don't know why, unless you are just looking for something to disagree with.  I don't think you even read my post, so I don't know why I bother to explain things out.  Additionally, if you believe people behave the same (you said they act closely) as when they are on any given reality show, then that explains a lot.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">I do believe it is common by me but that does not mean it does not happen in other places. THAT was my entire point. I personally think it is a lot of money, especially 2 years before college when that money could be used for that. </span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">While everyone knows that reality shows are scripted, there are a lot of things that people on those shows actually do in their lives and act the way they do. </span></strong></p>

Why are you still trying to debate this?  You have agreed with what everyone else said, while trying to argue with them at the same time, lol.

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Thu, 06-13-2013 - 3:42am

1.  Do your kids go to school on the last day of school? Mine always did. Her main reason for going to school was to socialize, so she went whenever she could.

2.  Do you throw (or let them throw) an end of year party for their friends?Not really, but it never came up. From about 8th/9th grade, they always went out for stuff like that.

3.  How many *graduation ceremonies* will/have your children experienced in their life time? There was a ceremony at the end of elementary school, and a small thing at the end of HS. I guess next year there will be some sort of thing for college graduation, although I am not sure.

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Thu, 06-13-2013 - 3:46am
"But I do maintain that a lavish, over-the-top party as "the norm" or as an "expected thing" or even as "common" is a regional thing." ----------- I doubt it is regional in the geographical sense. It seems more cultural/SES related.
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Thu, 06-13-2013 - 7:27am

ducky1st89 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">ducky1st89</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;1.  Do your kids go to school on the last day of school?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;2.  Do you throw (or let them throw) an end of year party for their friends?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;3.  How many *graduation ceremonies* will/have your children experienced in their life time?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>1.  I never make my little kids go on the last day.  They have all chosen to go through elementary school, but not in middle school.  They have finals on the last day in highschool.  @@</p><p>2.  I don't plan parties for anything, lol.....</p><p>3.  I refuse to call it graduation..... but they seem to have a ceremony for every milestone....kindy, 5th grade, 8th grade... and finally, the real thing, highschool.  That's four.</p><p> </p>

So in not making your kids go to school on the last day you basically make up your own last day of school and leave it up to them to decide.  Interesting..  What else don't you make your kids do?  Nevermind...

 


 


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Thu, 06-13-2013 - 7:29am
Ahh, Finals, Welcome to high school, Lol.

 


 


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Thu, 06-13-2013 - 7:32am
My oldest is the only one that had a 5th grade graduation, That send off really was more fluff than anything else. Middle school to high school is a bigger leap IMO.

 


 


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Thu, 06-13-2013 - 7:35am

springfever2013 wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">&lt;&lt;We always did parties each year, nothing huge. My dd will be 16 next year and I would rather do a vacation of her choice then have to spend close to $10,000 for a party at a hall. &gt;&gt;</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">That seems like quite a lot for a birthday party.  Couldn't you do a small party at home?</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>It IS a lot IMO. Sweet 16's are a big hoopla event by me. The dress, the friends, the candle ceremonies, etc, etc. I don't think my dd would want a party at home as not sure what the kids would do as we don't have pool and she has a summer bday. </strong></p>

In some communities it most certainly is, ITA.  No pink limosuine?  ;)

 


 


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Thu, 06-13-2013 - 7:40am

.  Interesting..  What else don't you make your kids do?  Nevermind...</p>[/quote]

There were a lot of things I did not make my kids do.  I figured there are so many things in life you do not have a choice in, especially when you are a kid that if it was something that I did not consider one of those "must dos"  the decision was up to them. 

The end result of that is my children are much better decision makers in their 20's than I was because they had a lot more practice than I did in the more  authoritarian household I grew up in. 

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Thu, 06-13-2013 - 7:42am
You can't compare beer budgets to champagne.

 


 


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