End of School Year Fluff

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End of School Year Fluff
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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 10:12am

1.  Do your kids go to school on the last day of school?

2.  Do you throw (or let them throw) an end of year party for their friends?

3.  How many *graduation ceremonies* will/have your children experienced in their life time?

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 5:54pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You know, I'm not sure that I would use MTV as a basis for what is the norm, lol. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I wasn't. I was using that as an indication that it is not a regional thing. It happens all over the country.</span></strong></p>

I think that celebrating a girl's 16th birthday, maybe even with a party, is not a regional thing.  I think that celebrating a Sweet Sixteen with a lavish, over-the-top party is not a regional thing.  But I do maintain that a lavish, over-the-top party as "the norm" or as an "expected thing" or even as "common" is a regional thing.    And by regional I don't mean limited to ONE region- there may be multiple regions, of which LI is one.

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 6:06pm

I think that celebrating a girl's 16th birthday, maybe even with a party, is not a regional thing.  I think that celebrating a Sweet Sixteen with a lavish, over-the-top party is not a regional thing.  But I do maintain that a lavish, over-the-top party as "the norm" or as an "expected thing" or even as "common" is a regional thing.    And by regional I don't mean limited to ONE region- there may be multiple regions, of which LI is one.

Possibly. Googling Sweet 16's you find many things and cakes, which again, like you have said is not in just one region.

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 7:01pm

1,   They did.

2. No

3.  DD1 had one for 5th grade,  high school and college.

     DD2,   high school and college.

    DD3 did not have a "graduation ceremony" for 5th and 8th grade but they did have a special end of year awards ceremony just for that grade, high school and college. 

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 7:53pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I understand that some people have them from all over the place.  In some places, like LI, everyone has one, because if you do not, your kid feels deprived--cause it's the norm.  Nowhere did I say that's the only place where it's common for everyone to do it. </p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>I would venture to say that many places are like this but since we are not aware of every town in every state, we can't just assume it is regional. </strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">And like EVERY reality show, it's not reality.  YOu can't claim that those people did not have a bigger party than they would have, since MTV was showing them in their show.  You just don't know.  I'm saying it's probable. </p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Oh, I know that it is not all real but I would say it is pretty close to how these people are IRL. </strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">And I don't see where I said big parties are limited to LI.  I used LI as an example, not that's the only place that has big parties.  I tend to talk in generalities, when I talk about huge areas...cause I'm pretty sure there are at least 10 girls on the Island, that turned 16 in the last 5 years &amp; didn't have a party.  For whatever reason. And I'm willing to bet it was much more than 10.  And I'm willing to bet that at least 10 girls in the every region of the US (that's above median income) had a sweet 16 party in the last 5 years.  You can't just say, that people have them from all over and consider that something to point out to someone else who disagrees with you.  Because it's a given.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Maybe you should use a region then and not point out certain places. </strong></p>

Oh dear...we are assuming it is regional because many people HERE in this cross section of where posters live, some people are saying that it is not common in their area.  YOU say it's common in your area, which would be one region of the US.  Whether you say region, state, county, area, whatever.  You want to be picky whether I say region, area, or certain place?  I don't know why, unless you are just looking for something to disagree with.  I don't think you even read my post, so I don't know why I bother to explain things out.  Additionally, if you believe people behave the same (you said they act closely) as when they are on any given reality show, then that explains a lot.

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 7:59pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Yep, just like BravoTV shows us that here are "housewives" all over the country.  Don't get me wrong, I think people all over the world have sweet sixteen parties and I'm sure that there are people that spend a little and some that spend a lot....I just wouldn't use MTV as a judge for what is the norm in different areas.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">No, I wasn't using it as a judge for what is the norm. I only used it as an example that these type of parties are not just regional as some posters have indicated. </span></strong></p>

No one ever said these parties only happen regionly.  No one here said that once you drive across a state line of any certain "region" that there is a dearth of Sweet Sixteen parties.  I explained out how I understand that when someone says it's not common to have that kind of party, that doesn't mean that I have any illusion that there are actually no Sweet Sixteen parties at all.  I don't know why you don't understand the difference between others saying No it's not common here to have a Sweet Sixteen party & spend $7000 on it--and that the rest of us know that it means that still a few people might do it, and might have been featured on a stupid reality show.   So in sum, you are saying you didn't understand that when someone says, it's a regional thing, that all of us understand that means in some regions the majority of households would have a party for their 16 yo and other regions a small minority would do that.  You seem to think in absolutes.  Never a good idea.

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 8:00pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="text-align:left">I think that celebrating a girl's 16th birthday, maybe even with a party, is not a regional thing.  I think that celebrating a Sweet Sixteen with a lavish, over-the-top party is not a regional thing.  But I do maintain that a lavish, over-the-top party as "the norm" or as an "expected thing" or even as "common" is a regional thing.    And by regional I don't mean limited to ONE region- there may be multiple regions, of which LI is one.</span></p><p style="text-align:left">Possibly. Googling Sweet 16's you find many things and cakes, which again, like you have said is not in just one region.</p>

Nobody said that.  Wow you are actually doing research to prove something to no one else thinks or says.  Ok.

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 8:57pm

"when someone says, it's a regional thing, that all MOST of us understand that means in some regions the majority of households would have a party for their 16 yo and other regions a small minority would do that. You seem to think in absolutes."

Exactly.  

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 8:59pm

Oh dear...we are assuming it is regional because many people HERE in this cross section of where posters live, some people are saying that it is not common in their area.  YOU say it's common in your area, which would be one region of the US.  Whether you say region, state, county, area, whatever.  You want to be picky whether I say region, area, or certain place?  I don't know why, unless you are just looking for something to disagree with.  I don't think you even read my post, so I don't know why I bother to explain things out.  Additionally, if you believe people behave the same (you said they act closely) as when they are on any given reality show, then that explains a lot.

I do believe it is common by me but that does not mean it does not happen in other places. THAT was my entire point. I personally think it is a lot of money, especially 2 years before college when that money could be used for that. 

While everyone knows that reality shows are scripted, there are a lot of things that people on those shows actually do in their lives and act the way they do. 

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 9:01pm

No one ever said these parties only happen regionly.  No one here said that once you drive across a state line of any certain "region" that there is a dearth of Sweet Sixteen parties.  I explained out how I understand that when someone says it's not common to have that kind of party, that doesn't mean that I have any illusion that there are actually no Sweet Sixteen parties at all.  I don't know why you don't understand the difference between others saying No it's not common here to have a Sweet Sixteen party & spend $7000 on it--and that the rest of us know that it means that still a few people might do it, and might have been featured on a stupid reality show.   So in sum, you are saying you didn't understand that when someone says, it's a regional thing, that all of us understand that means in some regions the majority of households would have a party for their 16 yo and other regions a small minority would do that.  You seem to think in absolutes.  Never a good idea.

Nope, not thinking in absolutes and have said that a few times. I am assuming from your comments that you never have seen the show on MTV. These parties are WAY beyond the "average" party that middle class people have. lol.

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 9:44pm

1.  Do your kids go to school on the last day of school?

Yes.  They are students.  That's their job.

2.  Do you throw (or let them throw) an end of year party for their friends?

Possibly for high school, which is many years away.

3.  How many *graduation ceremonies* will/have your children experienced in their life time?

Ideally, h.s., college, and graduate school.

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