End of School Year Fluff

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End of School Year Fluff
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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 10:12am

1.  Do your kids go to school on the last day of school?

2.  Do you throw (or let them throw) an end of year party for their friends?

3.  How many *graduation ceremonies* will/have your children experienced in their life time?

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Ducky

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 2:19pm

BeaArthurisMyReligion wrote:
<p>eh whatever - it's a big deal in a lot of the country - just like quincineras are big with latino girls turning 15-- I don't see a problem if its within the family's means to do so... I never threw big parties for the girl when she was little and i'm kind of looking forward to the chance to do something splashy in a few years...</p>

I agree that it can be a big deal in some areas or even within a family but for some reason I can't see you spending $10,000 for a 16th birthday party.   I can totally see it being splashy and cool though.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 2:17pm

<<I think boys are easier with the bday party thing as they get older. I don't really hear much of a boys "sweet sixteen" by me. It is usually a girl thing. I am trying to steer my girl away from the very expensive party. My gf just had one last year for her dd and she said she got away "cheap" at $7,000 for it. >>

If you don't want to do it, why not just say no?


PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 2:10pm

MTV may have featured elaborate Sweet 16s from all over, but I can tell you that it is not common here. I'm sure it happens some - there are rich fruitcakes everywhere - but it is definitely not happening enough for it to be "the norm" or even close.

Oh, I get that it is not as common in certain places but I am sure they have them everywhere, not just in certain regions. 

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 2:08pm

MTV may have featured elaborate Sweet 16s from all over, but I can tell you that it is not common here. I'm sure it happens some - there are rich fruitcakes everywhere - but it is definitely not happening enough for it to be "the norm" or even close.

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 2:01pm

I know in LI it is common to have to have a big party & keep up witht he Jones' on the cost.

Big parties are not justed limited to LI. That might be your experience but I know that they ARE done around the country.

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 1:59pm

If MTV was featuring those parties, it doesn't mean it was common for everyone in that area to have one though.  They were having an over the top party to get on MTV or likely because they were on MTV. 

No, they didn't have the parties to GET on MTV. They would have had them anyway. Catered affairs for Sweet 16's (as well as christenings, communions, confirmations, bar and bat mitzvah's, quincenaros, graduations, etc.) is not something new. I even went to a bunch of Sweet 16's in catered halls, 25 + years ago. They might be more popular in one area than another but the ones on TV were not limited to one area of the country. 

Example--Life magazine came to my high school in 1985 for prom (any like 10 other schools across the nation).  That year couples were doing much bigger/varied ativities than usual to get featured in the magazine.

That sounds really cool Laughing

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 1:56pm

1. Yes they go to school, like any other day.

2.  No I don't throw a party every year. If they ask to have some friends over, I'd consider it--just depends on the circumstances, but I wouldn't shut it down, just because or have it every year just because we did it in the past.  Dd1 had a couple girls spend the night the last 2 years on the last day of school.

On Sweet 16's--no one has them here, maybe the rich people do.  I treated it like any other birthday-I've let my kids have a party every year.  For dd1 16's party I took her &5-6 girls to a play at our performing arts center & then they spent the night.  So that might have cost about $200ish.  I know in LI it is common to have to have a big party & keep up witht he Jones' on the cost.

3. K, 5th, 8th & hs.

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 1:49pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">"Sweet 16's are a big hoopla event by me. The dress, the friends, the candle ceremonies, etc, etc." It must be regional... I can't even imagine.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">As I was saying to Lauren, it might be but many of those (WAY over the top parties) on MTV were all over the nation so it seems they do have them outside of my area.</span></strong></p>

If MTV was featuring those parties, it doesn't mean it was common for everyone in that area to have one though.  They were having an over the top party to get on MTV or likely because they were on MTV.  Example--Life magazine came to my high school in 1985 for prom (any like 10 other schools across the nation).  That year couples were doing much bigger/varied ativities than usual to get featured in the magazine.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 1:32pm

"Sweet 16's are a big hoopla event by me. The dress, the friends, the candle ceremonies, etc, etc." It must be regional... I can't even imagine.

As I was saying to Lauren, it might be but many of those (WAY over the top parties) on MTV were all over the nation so it seems they do have them outside of my area.

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Tue, 06-11-2013 - 1:31pm

<<It IS a lot IMO. Sweet 16's are a big hoopla event by me. The dress, the friends, the candle ceremonies, etc, etc. I don't think my dd would want a party at home as not sure what the kids would do as we don't have pool and she has a summer bday. >>

Friends of mine combined their two dd's 16's and rented a pool, shared expenses and such.

Nice Laughing