Fat Tuesday

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Tue, 03-04-2014 - 11:20am

1. Are you giving up anything for Lent?

2. Did you go away for college or stay home and commute? Did your/will your children go away or commute for college?

3. Do you have a certain time you turn on or turn off your heat for the season?

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Tue, 03-04-2014 - 9:17pm

You didn't, which is why I asked the question.  The question follows your comments that talk about living on campus if close to be a waste of time,

I didnt say it was a waste of time. 

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Tue, 03-04-2014 - 9:39pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span>You didn't, which is why I asked the question.  The question follows your comments that talk about living on campus if close to be a waste of time, </span></p><p><span>I didnt say it was a waste of time. </span></p>

Well here you go, an edited version so you can respond and/or answer the question.

You didn't, which is why I asked the question.  The question follows your comments that talk about living on campus if close to be a waste of money, that you would just give more freedom at home, more freedom to do things with new friends like in a dorm room....all so that one wouldn't have to pay for a dorm room and food.   All of these were used to counter the point that there was a purpose in living on campus, if it isn't your intent to compare the two, why are you comparing the two?

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Tue, 03-04-2014 - 9:40pm

just_another_marla wrote:
He really loves physics and is giddy at the sheer thought of astrophysics, so maybe he'll move away to some exotic campus, or maybe he'll just stay home with mom and dad and commute to the University of Michigan. We won't know for a few years :)

It's hard to find a much better school than U of Michigan for a whole heck of a lot of majors.

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Tue, 03-04-2014 - 9:41pm

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">My daughter goes to college about 30 minutes from here. She lives on campus. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Can I ask why she doesn't just commute? I have heard some stories lately of kids staying at schools that are close to their homes, some just 15-20 minutes away. Doesn't make sense to me to go that close and not stay home.</span></strong></p>

There is where a waste of time was implied imo, giving that you are talking about time and distance.  But if you say it wasn't about waste of time here, what does time and distance have to do with anything?

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Tue, 03-04-2014 - 11:22pm

geschichtsgal wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">just_another_marla</em> wrote:</div>He really loves physics and is giddy at the sheer thought of astrophysics, so maybe he'll move away to some exotic campus, or maybe he'll just stay home with mom and dad and commute to the University of Michigan. We won't know for a few years :) </blockquote></p><p>It's hard to find a much better school than U of Michigan for a whole heck of a lot of majors.</p>

Don't say that around my DIL, who is a hardcore Ohio State fan :D

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 7:56am

< I just think it is a waste of money to live on a dorm that is so close to home. I would rather give them more freedom at home, being in college, and take that money that would have been spent on a dorm and food plan and give it to them when they graduate, get a job and start off.>

Molly, you may think its a waste of money, but what if your kids want to live on a nearby campus? IMO, college dorm life is a great soft landing into independent living. It was a great experience for me, and my daughter seems to love it, too. Like anything else that can be constrained by finances, it's great to have a choice. If I offered my daughter a lump sum of room and board money at grad to live at home, she's still would have chosen to live on campus. Only one of her high school friends chose to live at home and commute, and she dropped out before the end of the first semester. Her best friend hs goes to a college that is a closer commute than their hs.

There's nothing wrong with communting to get anaffordable  education, I do it now as a lifelong learner, but I'd rather have an 18yo live on campus because the college experience is about much more than scholatics.


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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 10:14am

Well here you go, an edited version so you can respond and/or answer the question.

You didn't, which is why I asked the question.  The question follows your comments that talk about living on campus if close to be a waste of money, that you would just give more freedom at home, more freedom to do things with new friends like in a dorm room....all so that one wouldn't have to pay for a dorm room and food.   All of these were used to counter the point that there was a purpose in living on campus, if it isn't your intent to compare the two, why are you comparing the two?

Again, where did I say a waste of time? Why would you question something I did not say? When you quote me where I said it was a waste of time, we can continue. Laughing
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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 10:16am
blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">My daughter goes to college about 30 minutes from here. She lives on campus. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Can I ask why she doesn't just commute? I have heard some stories lately of kids staying at schools that are close to their homes, some just 15-20 minutes away. Doesn't make sense to me to go that close and not stay home.</span></strong></p>

There is where a waste of time was implied imo, giving that you are talking about time and distance.  But if you say it wasn't about waste of time here, what does time and distance have to do with anything?

So IYO it was implied. Gotcha. Never said it, as I said before so I guess there is no debate here. Thanks. 

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 10:54am

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; font-size:13px; text-align:left"><div><div><div><p>Well here you go, an edited version so you can respond and/or answer the question.</p><p>You didn't, which is why I asked the question.  The question follows your comments that talk about living on campus if close to be a waste of money, that you would just give more freedom at home, more freedom to do things with new friends like in a dorm room....all so that one wouldn't have to pay for a dorm room and food.   All of these were used to counter the point that there was a purpose in living on campus, if it isn't your intent to compare the two, why are you comparing the two?</p></div><div><strong>Again, where did I say a waste of time? Why would you question something I did not say? When you quote me where I said it was a waste of time, we can continue. <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" border="0" /></strong></div></div></div></div>

I explained where I got the waste of time, you said there was an issue with time and distance.  I find it very curious that you are hyperfocused on such a small tree while ignoring the forest.   I removed the piece of a waste of time, that doesn't change the overall post at all and yet you didn't answer.   Curious.

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Wed, 03-05-2014 - 10:56am

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>blackandwhitemolly</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;My daughter goes to college about 30 minutes from here. She lives on campus. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Can I ask why she doesn't just commute? I have heard some stories lately of kids staying at schools that are close to their homes, some just 15-20 minutes away. Doesn't make sense to me to go that close and not stay home.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">There is where a waste of time was implied imo, giving that you are talking about time and distance.  But if you say it wasn't about waste of time here, what does time and distance have to do with anything?</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>So IYO it was implied. Gotcha. Never said it, as I said before so I guess there is no debate here. Thanks. </strong></p>

Yes, time and distance would indicate there was a problem with you know....time and distance.  There is debate here, but not as long as you don't answer the questions and instead are focused on something that isn't relevant to the overall discussion.  Get back me to when you can answer the questions.  Wink

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